Quote From: lashields I married at a young age. I have two boys. I stayed in a married because I was brought up to "stick it out for the kids sake." If I had listened to that advice, I'd be dead by now. Not only did my ex mentally abuse me, he had played a race to the Dist. Atty and lied his way into full custody. I thought life couldn't be any worse. Till the I.R.S. had contacted me with an $18,000.00 dollar bill. At 28 who thought I would loose my kids and be in a Chapter 13.
Karma is a wonderful thing!!! Justice is slow, but I have shown what a lieing blankity blank my ex is. In fact so has a higher power. He has had to go thru 10 surgeries for cancer on his private part. (not much left to speak of. The boys who are (and have been with me for years) are doing well. Mostly they are angry at a Dad who is evil and cruel.
Long story short.... Life is too short to be miserable. The truth will set you free. If you know your not happy, get out!!! There is NO reason to be miserable with an evil person!!!
I am sorry for what you went through. I sure hope the message your childen get is
that internalized pain can cause a man to act like a Baboon. They need to know
that the actions of their dad was evil and cruel but he was not. They need to hear
what Dr. Phil said about true strength and power? They need to know the truth so they do not take on any of the bad examples they had?
Please don't refer to cancer as a punishment from higher, it's not. Innocent children get cancer.
The problems you had in your marrage and for your children is bad but had things behind that
your ex did not find a strength to fix rather he thought he was strong through his actions.
Don't ya think far too many males are taught that fighting, tough actions make a man instead of the fine examples of power being within the man not afraid to walk away, change and be decent?
Most people are not evil but display evil actions? We need to be careful what our children hear.
Sounds like your children need to hear that their father must have had a lot of pain to be so miserable and have evil actions? I think that truth will help your kids better?
