Quote From: pensue2000I am in the same boat with a disrespectful 16 yr old. She had now turned violent on me, hitting me quite a bit. I have had to call the police on her. Of course, they said they would arrest me for striking her, go figure. I guess we are supposed to just take it until they kill us. My trouble is all over a boyfreind that is 15 yrs old who is on drugs and has a police record. To make matters worse, my daughter is an honor student. I have to watch her throw her life away, right now when it's critical to the rest of her life. I am at my wits end with what to do for her. I hoep yours gets better.
I have a teenaged daughter too. Until you've lived thru middle school and high school with a teen-aged girl you've not lived. My daughter had a great family, a great home, a great life on all accounts. What made her begin to be promiscuous and doing things that shocked me and her dad? Influences from school and friends. We're Christian, we raised her with 'right' values, we are a very close and open family. But it's hard these days for kids. I too have changed my entire way of parenting. Web Cameras, Computer monitoring software (www.eblaster.com), Car Tracking devices which I can watch online and get instant e-mails (www.discretewireless.com), home security system to alert me of her trying to sneak out, and whatever else it takes. Call the police if anything illegal is going on, get over trying to be their buddy - you're their parent, understand that teenagers are much like toddlers, just bigger....exploring their world and our job is to keep them from killing themselves by 'drinking the bleach under the sink." It's costly to protect, watch, and care for teens these days, but it comes with the territory. Yes, BE Consistent. Be consistent with consequences and don't give in or up. If you have to put bars on your doors and windows do so. and ASK ASK ASK for help from every source available. Pediatricians, Doctors, School Officials, Police, etc. It's hard and tiring work. Their brain isn't fully developed til their 25 years old - they really don't get it... REALLY. But love them and be a parent. That means you give up alot of your time. Don't take No Junk off your kid!! Just Don't. It's tiring but get help from whoever you can when you need a break.
This girl has to learn to love life and herself and it's terribly hard to teach them to NOT be like their friends. The majority of kids these days are into every dang thing. Most girls these days don't believe Oral Sex is a big deal - it's amazing. Lifetime has a couple of great movies... She's too young is an excellent film to wake up society!!
Don't Give Up on our Girls!!!
