I'm not sure I agree with the statement above. I'm having a problem with a friend, which is what brought me here. It seems that she always wants me to be there when she needs me, but she doesn't reciprocate.
She is currently pregnant and she is upset with me because I'm not helping her. She knows that I have had some serious medical tests done recently and she hasn't even bothered to ask how I am doing or what I found out. It's almost like she thinks it's all about her.
We recently had a falling out because she called me to have a beer with her for St. Patrick's Day. I don't believe that pregnant women should be drinking at all, so I sent her some information about fetal alcohol syndrome, in case she didn't know how serious it is. She took offense to it and denies ever having asked (I have her voice mail message, so I know I wasn't imagining it). What followed were nasty e-mails telling me that I'm insane and am being a bad friend. I told her I did not appreciate her sending nasty e-mails to me at work, where someone could be monitoring them for inapproriate words such as the ones she used. I told her I felt like she could have put my job in jeopardy. She said, "I NEVER put your job in jeopardy and have nothing to apologize about." She also said "I wanted to put all this behind us so we could move on and you could support me, but I see that you do not care enough to do that."
Where is my support? She's pregnant and makes it out to be suffering and tormoil instead of the joyous time it is supposed to be. I am facing a potentially life threatening illness and have to start a couple of years of medicinal therapy. I feel that you have to be a friend to have a friend. It became painfully obvious to me that she wants me to be her friend, but she's not interested in being mine. I told her that I disgree about this being "a silly mess", as she called it. Now she won't leave me alone. All this leaves me wondering...what the heck kind of person am I really dealing with here?
