|
July 27, 2005, 8:12 am PDT
Ask her.
Quote From: loylfrnd
Hi,
Ihaven't been on the boards in many months but have an issue I am dealing with that I would greatly appreciate comments, ideas, suggestions.A coworker and I went to lunch one day, she told me I was her best friend. I was honored but surprised because this person can have any friend she wants and does have many. Anyway, I have been a great friend to her---the thing is, I am always the one who asks to do things, or calls, or goes to see her or emails. My question, I thought being best friends was doing things with eachother to get to know one another? Am I wrong?
We don't work together anymore but live close by eachother. She seems intimidated by her husband if I am at her house and he comes home--she has to go. I don't understand that.He and I seem to get along okay.My husband is more than happy to let me do things with my friends. I dearly love this person as a friend and want our friendship to grow, get to know her better, and establish memories together. We asked her and her husband to dinner one night and she declined. Don't even remember the reason. That really hurt my feelings. They have been married for 8 or 9 years, his second and her third. I don't dare ask her to do anything if he is home.So, is it me? Am I hoping for to much? Could you guys please shed your thoughts on this? Thanks! If she considers you her best friend, I don't think she would mind if you asked her what gives. We can all speculate till the cows come home, but you are the one who knows her. I've learned from sad experience that assuming what other's thoughts and motivations are can get you nowhere, or at worst, in trouble. Communication is the key here.
|
