Quote From: feng456k first i wanna say to those ppl writing on here to dr. phil that (as far as i know from what ive heard) he doesnt check these boards! write to him via letter and you'll have better luck.
k i need some advice please. i dont think i wanna get married cuz i dont think i will meet the right person at least until im like 40 or 50 or even older. i've always really wanted to have kids though so having chlidren is a higher priority than getting married.
so um do u think im crazy? is this a realistic future? ive heard adoption takes years and costs a lot of money. so if thats true, even if i do finally get to adopt wud i have any money left to give the child a happy childhood???
background info: im under 20, im a guy, im bi, im in university/college studying engineering first year, im volunteering for Big Brothers Big Sisters...
please any advice would be good. thanks
I wanted to respond to your message.
Remember your young and you have your whole life ahead of you, as you stated you don't think you will meet the right person until like 40 or 50. The right person will come along and you realize that you really care for this person and things just seem to fall in place and workout. One morning while drinking your coffee after about 5 to 7 years of that relationship, you will wonder where all that time went seems like it just flew bye.
I think that it is a good idea to adopt, there are always great kids in need of a home, but before you consider that, consider the fact that most of them have been traumatized or have already been on an emontional rollercoaster and need a VERY stable, loving, safe home. Make sure you have your *hit together before you even consider that route.
Hope this helps you and good luck.
