Replies to '03/14 Mr. Wrong'

Hi!  I just found out about my niece that is dating a child sex offender.  We had no idea about him before attending an overnight family New Year's Eve party. There were a total of 8 children under the age of 13, the youngest was 3, and none of us, but my niece and her parents knew about him.  She had finally told her parents just before Christmas and he was still allowed to come to our family parties.  What is wrong with people?  I was more upset after I was told and had time to think about it.  How can a person encourage someone like my niece to leave the guy and pursue other interests?  She is 27 years old and has been married once before.  The guy she married ended up being a loser too!  He was skitsophrenic and had gone off the deep end. 

I believe people can change, but why give them a chance to hurt my own kids or  my other little nieces or nephews?  I would forever be looking over my shoulder to make sure he wasn't going to do it to them.  I would hate to live this way the rest of my life.

I guess I am asking what can I do or say to help her realize this is wrong and she wouldn't be happy living this way either?  Any suggestions?

I am absolutely SHOCKED that Dr. Phil didn't say something to that ignorant woman when he asked her, "Who did he kill?" and she answered so damn flippantly, "Oh, just some guy"!!!!!!!!!

Well, we don't know the whole story about the husband but I sure as hell DO know that "just some guy" was someone's child!!   Since we don't know anything about it I am assuming that the dead guy was someone innocent--I am assuming that if it was a self defense type of situation she would have been quick to defend him and he wouldn't have gotten such a long sentence.

How dare this woman make light of the death of someone else's child, a grandchild, brother, uncle, friend, husband...she needs to be called on the carpet for that!!   With that kind of an attitude how can anyone trust her to say something IF the husband was touching the girls inappropriately??  He can hold them on his lap, that's all it takes for a pervert to do something.  I saw a show one time {a movie or something} where the husband was in jail & he was getting privledges from another prisoner who was a molester b/c he was holding his daughter on his lap & holding her dress up so the molester could look at her while in the waiting room visiting someone else}  Sorry if that offends anyone but as a survivor of molestation I have a right to say what I think.

I also think child protection should step in & demand that she stop taking those girls to the prison; if that was the kids birth father I might feel differently about it but as a step father that never spent time in the home with them I think there is a danger to the kids as well the memories the kids will  have---imagine being a child and having to be searched!!!!

I have a friend that has talked about going to Berlin to visit her grandparents & having to be searched as a child just to visit family, it has left scars that she will never forget and I can't help but think of her when that mother spoke about the kids being searched.

It makes me sick when I hear of someone getting out of prison early {we have early release due to overcrowding in my state} due to "GOOD BEHAVIOR"  how the hell else can they behave?  If a child molester gets out early for good behavior does anyone else besides me think, of course he has been good, there are no kids in prison to molest!!!

I know they mean that the person hasn't broken the rules but that's not good behavior, it's just obeying prison rules.

Just as kids under 12 can't go to most hospitals for visiting, I believe a similar rule should be in effect at prisons & jails and even then I think kids should be asked by the guards IF they want to visit since it requires their privacy be violated by the search.  I would never subject a child to such a thing; going to the dr after being molested and answering all the police questions have left scars on me especially since we are taught that these are private areas of our bodies and not to let anyone look or touch us there.