Replies to '01/17 Gender Identity Crisis'

transsexuals don't need help they need support cause all they are trying to do is make their outside look like their inside and gwen was never a he last i checked being born male or female is only our sex our gender is who we are and thats what makes us male or female not whats between our legs.

this is in reply to the gender idenitity crisis:

I totally can understand what hell these people must be living  each day as you see ,I am a mother of 2 . Two now grown , young men , both females living, trapped inside  a mans body. My heart breaks for the both of them  as I love them both so much, but I feel so helpless as a mother, their mum,not being able to fix this or make it right. All I can and have been doing is being there for them and love them for who they are.

And what help do you suppose that us poor transgender folks need? Did it occur to you that some of us lead very healthy and happy lives? Yes- what happened to Gwen, Brandon Teena, and countless others is devastating. BUT that does not happen to all of us- or even the majority. The majority will never regret their decision to transition and will go on to lead amazing lives full of happiness and support. Just like everyone else out there some of us have painful stories and some of us have nothing but good things to tell. It is SOOOOO wrong for others to assume that (1) we need your help and (2) that we are doomed to hardship.

 

It may amaze you to know that there are actually supportive people out there. In fact, the most supportive of my friends are the ones you would probably call "normal" because they are straight and gender-conforming. In addition, most of the trans people I know are in healthy relationships with partners that could care less that they are transgender. I can't believe that Phil assumed that Cameron would have problems finding a partner due to being transgender. Sure- it's something you talk to a partner about, but for many it won't make or break the relationship.

 

Perhaps instead of trans people getting help, non-trans people in our society should seek help. If you are so concerned about the murders of Gwen and other trans people, then maybe you should step back and ask yourself why non-trans people kill trans people. What the hell did we ever do to them? How do my chromosomes and genitals affect you? Last time I checked it didn't affect you one bit. Since non-trans people seem to be the ones committing violence, I suggest they be the ones to seek help in changing their behavior. My gender doesn't affect the general public, but violence does.