Quote From: keljan92Hi! I just found out about my niece that is dating a child sex offender. We had no idea about him before attending an overnight family New Year's Eve party. There were a total of 8 children under the age of 13, the youngest was 3, and none of us, but my niece and her parents knew about him. She had finally told her parents just before Christmas and he was still allowed to come to our family parties. What is wrong with people? I was more upset after I was told and had time to think about it. How can a person encourage someone like my niece to leave the guy and pursue other interests? She is 27 years old and has been married once before. The guy she married ended up being a loser too! He was skitsophrenic and had gone off the deep end.
I believe people can change, but why give them a chance to hurt my own kids or my other little nieces or nephews? I would forever be looking over my shoulder to make sure he wasn't going to do it to them. I would hate to live this way the rest of my life.
I guess I am asking what can I do or say to help her realize this is wrong and she wouldn't be happy living this way either? Any suggestions?
Most child molesters are NOT ALLOWED TO BE AROUND KIDS! Call your local parole/probation department and ask if that is a normal part of their release of molesters. In a lot of states it extends even beyond parole.
You can also look up your local child molesters online, go to google & put in your state and then "registered sex offenders" and see if he is listed there. Many sex offenders do not notify the parole department that they have moved, let alone that they are living with children in the home b/c they will go right back to prison...if no one ever checks then no one will know this dirty little secret.
You need to at least do the things I have suggested or some day in the future you may be living with a gulty heart since you didn't take action when you found out.
I know it's difficult to interfer with family members, many of us don't report things we should b/c of this entanglement. You can do these things annon and no one will know; if you don't find any answers on the sex offender registry then you can breathe a sigh of relief, if you do need to act on it, then no matter what anyone in the family says, I THANK YOU in advance, you are saving a child from a life of grief and self doubt, pain, possibly suicide, self destructive behaviors, self loathing or even becoming a sex addict in the future or an offender themselves.
It takes courage to do it, but if you don't, please remember that you can't unring a bell.
