Quote From: mls1222Hi Sarah;
I'm in the 20 year club myself. I know exactly what you are talking about. There are good men in prison, but they put up a hell of a wall to the free world and try and stay tough. I've seen men like your husband and mine with kids and it is really amazing. I've seen hardened criminals sit on the ground and play blocks with little ones, riding the see-saw, etc... (when the guards allowed it) and they are putty in the kids hands. You sound like you have your head on pretty straight and as long as you keep your eyes open and it's working for you, don't let anyone put you down for it. YOU are the one that has to keep you happy. I remember the high I felt after a good visit and the anticipation for the next visit...roller coaster ride, definitely. I saw a movie once where a grandma described living life either on a carousel or roller coaster taking chances...she preferred the roller coaster! I've come to the conclusion that all the good men are either gay, married (or both), or in prison. A lot of them are in there for stupid decisions and non-violent crimes. Tell your husband to keep his head up and that he is a lucky man to have a woman like you supporting him. Good luck.
Mary
As a felony parole officer for three years (with a too large caseload), I always had a couple of women on my caseload who were "dating" men behind bars. What was SO typical was what happened to them when these guys got out of prison....they usually stole their car and/or money (after sex) and they ALWAYS dumped them.
Women "dating" men behind bars is a fantasy! These men are captive audiences for lonely women. These women also have some power in their lives they normally don't have...they know where the men are all the time, these men can't sleep w/ other women, these men tell them what they want to hear and say ALL the right things. They make these women feel special, loved and safe.
The fantasy ends when these "men" (I use the term loosely) are released from prison. They now are free to run, reoffend and get money and sex from ANY women they choose (who will lower themselves....and sadly, there are plenty).
ANY woman who would even WANT to hook up with a loser behind prison has little self respect. Women who aspire to be with a convicted criminal are sad, lonely people w/ low self esteems. And women who involve their children in these escapades are SELFISH, PATHETIC excuses for mothers!
Yep, when I grow up I'm going to date a convicted criminal behind bars! To you see how SAD that sounds!!!!!
