Replies to 'Ready for Marriage?'

There is one thing that your girlfriend said to you that I agree with: you should know, after 3 years together, if she is the one. All of the doubts that you describe are valid reasons to be concerned and to NOT propose. I think you know what you need to do, but you know it is very difficult. Being comfortable in a relationship isnt enough of a reason to stay in that relationship. It is difficult for many reasons, but you need to let her go so that she can get on with her life; it isnt fair to string her along with the lie that you are 77% sure that youll propose.

You need to make a decision and then, stick to that decision. If you decide to stay together, then you need to commit yourself 100% to the relationship, trying to improve the communication between the two of you and learning how to speak up for yourself and be heard. If you decide that you love this woman, but you dont want to get married now or ever to her, then you MUST let her know this in a gentle, kind way; and then, dont allow her to talk you back into the relationship like she did in the past. You are a big boy, its time to make decisions for yourself and then stick to the decision. This is a big one, you are doing the right thing by listening to your instincts. Good luck.