Quote From: jettavWhat you have discribed here is abuse, not a spanking. Now, if I understand your message (correct me if I am wrong,as I am really not sure)you seem to think that those who were spanked end up abusing their own children.And if this is what you are saying, you are dead wrong. I know many people, including myself who was spanked but I have never once abused my children. There is a big difference between a spank on the bottom and abuse. As a matter of fact I was abused in another way, spanking has absolutely nothing to do with the abuse that I encountered as a child, but I do not abuse my children in no way, shape or form.I agree that a child's upbringing can have a great affect on them as they become adults but with love and encouragement, and good role models, they can end the cycle of abuse or whatever went wrong in their home, believe me, I know. And I believe that if one was abused as a child, chances are they will abuse as well, I see it all the time, but thankfully I for one am not an abuser and I love and respect my children more then words can describe and I have absolutely no problem with a parent who spanks and I do agree that spanking can end up in an abuse situation as I believe all forms of positive discipline can end up being abuse.
I really don't understand you either(mixed messages). I spent years trying to recover from
so called spankings. Generations with less Hitting screamed and did spousal and their children
were crazy and drank from depression, from so called spanking. At all levels violence destroys people because
it shuts out positive and affection and trust. Children 1 to 5 Are hit a lot and prevented expressing
emotions because they weren't allowed to survive that way. By 4 a lot of children are destroyed in various ways. At all levels I saw no good just bad. Do you mean a smack or hitting with objects?
I also saw a lot of much worse. Some do better than others but and there are too many to promote it. I only trust non-violence. I know spanking reguarly destroys people in bad ways. Accumulated
destriction emotionally and mentally and pain for years. You shut it out. Sometimes because
you are treated better other times because of rage -power-revenge on the next generation.
So we are different, I only agree, that non violent parents occasionly smack rarely. The others within the law,
systematically,destroy people mentally and pretend it isn't harmful. We have very little common ground. I see people attacking others as too easy while their groups are beyond belief.
What you consider abuse is a large group out there and is not legislated against. I think people should speak out against violence it zips too other levels and people from it are not the most
controlled people.
