Quote From: lateblmr
A bully does not discontinue this behavior when they are 18 or 22. The school yard bully continues acting out, carrying their insecurities into the workplace. Europe has laws to protect employees from bullies in the workplace, but the U.S. does not - yet. (Please refer to the two excellent web sites I reference at the bottom of this note.) Their methods are tweeked a bit to fit the environment (setting people up, spreading untrue rumors, etc.), but they get the same results. If the employer is unwilling to correct the situation, tackling the issue immediately, an employee has no protection. Mentally healthy employees leave to find a more accepting company, draining the intelligence away from employers who allow this type of behavior to continue. So many of us can relate, I believe this topic would make an excellent show. Thank you.
http://www.prbmp.com/pagr418.htm
http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library//article/intentional-infliction-of-emotional-distress-by-employers.html
Victoria
Wichita, KS
How well I know, Victoria! I quit a wonderful job of 17 years because of an abusive boss. My superiors did little to nothing to stop her.
However, I'm wondering if the lack of competition in schools hasn't led us to this point. Schools expect everyone to be the same...none greater, none less, no better, no worse. It is human nature to be competitive and we need to acknowledge that, deal with it, and allow healthy competition back into our schools. I truly believe a lot of boredom would be eliminated if these children had something to put their energy into....something constructive. What complaint do we hear the most from kids today? "I'm BORED!" How many times have you heard that?
As it is now, schools want to make sure no one is made to feel inferior to anyone else or no one is any better than anyone else. Consequently, (if everyone is the same) where's the motive for improvement? No wonder these kids don't try to excel! What 's the purpose?
I hope Dr. Phil and Jay read these posts. I believe there is a lot more to the problem than just hurt feelings and under-lying anger. You can't just fix one area and expect the problem to go away. Everything has to be addressed. First, you have to find the core of the problem. "WHY" is this happening? "What" is different than in years gone by? Then we'll have the "HOW".
Also, you can't kick God out of schools and our nation and expect things will go well with us. We're on a downward slide and we'll not stop until we turn back. What, for example, would happen if a teacher suggested, "Do unto to others as you'd have them do unto you?" What is so wrong with that??!!
I am from an era where we saluted the flag every morning, and sang Christian songs from our song books. Did we have bullies? Yes, but very, very few. And they were expelled.
