Replies to '06/20 Snobs and Egomaniacs'

The difference being,

The person with self esteems understands that they are NOT the only person in even their lives that matter, the person with the EGO THINKS they are all that matters in peoples lives.

The person with self esteem knows how to get to where they want without harming others at the same time NOT ALLOWING others to step all over them, the egomaniac couldn't CARE LESS who he/she hurts, because we have to remember its all about them.

The person with self esteem can take a cashier's job, with an eye to the future and a smile on their face, and realize that there's no shame in any honest work, the egomaniac wouldn't drem of taking that job, they think they DESERVE to start at the top.

You are not a DOPE, too hard on yourself, yes.

If you are taking anti depressants and still experiencing bad symptoms, maybe you need your meds adjusted, are you in counselling as well ?  If not, maybe you could consider it, depression can be controlled quite well these days, you just have to find the right combination of meds and counselling to feel better, keeping in mind there are no quick fixes for this condition, but there is hope, been there done that.

Would you really want to be that person that few can actually tolerate, or a good person who feels good regardless ?  Food for thought

You're not a dope and you sure don't want what Renee and Anthony have. What do they have really? People generally don't like to be are people like that...not unless they have hope of getting something from them. Do you like being around a snob?

You can't make people like you but you can work on liking and accepting your self. People who are comfortable w/ themselves are generally liked.

I'm not rich, I'm a mom w / a minivan but I like myself ok and I like to learn and interact w/ others and people like me.. for me...probably because I'm usually honest and open and what you see is what you get, so I have that air about me..total strangers strike up conversations with me out of the blue (in check out lines etc.) people can be facinating...and I wouldn't  trade that kinda thing for the world.

So, what do those snobby people have?  Possesions don't visit you when you're sick and neither do fairweather friends

Blessings, Faery

There is a HUGE difference between having self-confidence and being ARROGANCE. Arrogant people have to put down others to build themselves up. Arrogant people are not happy people. Arrogant people are actually weak, powerless, unhappy people who need to be TOLD they are good.

Self confident people don't feel the need to tell anybody anything or to prove anything. They merely live their lives (happily) and rejoice when others do well. They are mature and need no reassurances. They are in control of their lives...who they are, etc.

Dr. Phil does not appear arrogant. He DOES appear self-confident. He should be...he has a love of God, a great wife and family (which he adores), he has a wonderful career and he's able to help others on a grand scale.

Remember the old saying, "It's hard to be humble when you are as great as I." Yes, HUMBLE is what we all should strive for!

By the way, sorry about the depression. Was in that state when I was an adolescent (early 20's) and it almost cost me my life. I worked thru it alone (it took 2 years) and have been happy and healthy ever since (I'm 44).

Don't give up, please! Always remember how life would be for those who LOVE YOU if you were to give up. They would feel sadness and guilt until they died. Knowing that is what kept me plugging away until I reached good health.

God bless you on this road. Tell youself you're going to make it. Surround yourself with new acquaintances (I did) and FORCE yourself to get out of the house. Eventually, those "acquintances" become new friends and you'll be on the road to recovery. Take care. I have faith in you!