Replies to '06/27 Problem Parent or Problem Child?'

you are talking about something completely different. Did you treat one kid better then the other? Did one kid get new clothes and toys while the other kids got thrift shop stuff? Did you comfort one kid and not the other? this is called favoritism and it is wrong. My girls have different personalities but the rules are the same for them. I love my girls equally, I do not love one over the other and this is exactly what the woman on the show was doing..................

Did you show greater affection for one over another? Put up more pictures of one kid over another?

Of course kids are all different. I was in choir in high school, one brother was in football, and the other brother was into wood working alone.

My parents went to all my concerts, all of the first brothers games and showed special interest in the creations of the third brother.

All different, yet all treated with equal amounts of love and respect.

I think the problem comes in when you say, go to your daughter's recital, but not to your son's baseball games, or when you have pictures of one all over the place, and few if any of the others, I think the BLATANT FAVORITISM is wrong, they are children.

You're right though, we don't always treat them the same because we are dealing with two or more different personalities, and sad but true sometimes they don't mesh completly, but I think we should LOVE them all equally.

Okay I wasn't thrilled about sitting by a cold soccer field, but I did for my sons, and how wonderful is a track field at 6:00am with the dew sparkling off of it, and a hot cup of coffee in my hand, but if I can't go, his father does, just as their father has walked through History fairs, and science fairs for our daughter if there was a conflict, no problem, we divide and conquer, but one does not miss out for the other.

So yes treat them differently, they are after all individuals with their own interests and strengths, but ALL of them deserve the EQUAL amount of love and respect from BOTH parents.

Word games...semantics and other such literary meanings...

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You are saying the same as most posters, but people's words are confusing.

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Yes, LOVE is the same (since love is endless and our hearts can hold it all), but "treatment" is a separate issue for most. For the guest, however, apparently it's her lack of love that influences the treatment of her child.

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For the vast majority of us GOOD/GREAT mothers, we do treat our children differently due to their ages, maturity, temperment, genders, wants, needs, etc, but NOT because of the amount of love (or lack of love) we have for them.