Replies to '06/20 Snobs and Egomaniacs'

Quote From: wavdancr

Where can you being to steer things back away from the trauma-drama queen and into reality ... gently, since your hubby is sadly convinced that her con-job is "reality".  Where can you begin to make your marriage 50-50 (your input should totally be equal to his; his wanting to move no matter how you feel is grossly unfair).... and do this without upsetting the apple cart in the process?

The blonde has found a way to get to your hubby ... what might you do to help make him more immune to her games, her smoke and mirrors?

She is seriously insecure (or she wouldn't have to keep bragging and boasting so much).  Is there anything about her you can honestly compliment her on?  Find her strengths and point those out to your hubby so he knows you are seeing both the positives and negatives about her.  Maybe when he sees you are being fair about her, maybe he will admit to whatever insecurities he has that are making him putty in her hands right now.  Like, a mid-life crisis on his part?  So, maybe ask him what his back-up plans are in case this move goes sour.  Maybe say how sad you feel at the thought of leaving your entire lives behind, esp your children and grandchildren ... ask how he plans on staying "really" connected with them and all your great friends you'll be leaving behind. 

Help him see that this move is NOT the Perfect Remedy to All That Ails Him like he thinks it is ... but very very gently so that you don't wound him as you lovingly open his eyes to reality?

FWIW...