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January 22, 2007, 2:34 pm PST

I'm here to give you a pat on the back.

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 That is scary, there are a lot of problems in my own family. One large  one due to the fact that my 22nd year old son who is mentally ill because his biological mother took drugs is one. My husband and my other grown children have  had to deal with these mental illness issues, never mind the fact that my Son will never have a normal life because of someone elses problems. We have always gotten help for him and continue in many different ways to help including letiing other agencys help him. So , I guess, my point which isn't coming out clearly is. these shows kindof make me sick. Here we did nothing but help our Son and the problems never end for him or us and this family with that Aunt is just so terrible. Yelling, pointing fingers, drinking problems  and on and on. I hate this particular show because is shows such dispare and we  here at our house, who have only tried to get the help my Son needs, sees a family that has been in denial for God knows how long. I wish there could be some happy endings to  these t ype of problems , but when you have family memebers that make things worse, it will be nearly impossible. All of a suddend the girl won't be ok, just because Dr. Phil stepped in. It will be because of his vast resources and ties that can get the girl away from her family.
My Son, like many other metally ill people , who need help and many times  refuse it will continue to struggle along day by day. That's life, there are no guarinteens, I know, and sorry about the spelling issues here,  but I will not give up on my Son , but with the laws the way they are, there is only so much I can do . He must want help also and if t here are other  poeple out there with relatives with mental health issues, le me know......sable

I have thought the same things you have written here. I am almost 50 years old, so this has been going on for a long time. YOU HAVE BEEN TRYING! THAT IS SO GREAT!

 

I am Christian, don't have much bible study though. When I was very young, I read the part where GOD says; I AM THAT I AM, don't worry you cannot understand, just believe. I don't know why your family or mine has been put through so much pain. Sometimes it seems cruel.

 

But, GOD is not cruel, the devil is. Anyway, you have not quit and will not quit. I think you get it.

 

I taped the show today. Got home in time to see just the last 20 minutes. Do you believe I feel lucky? I hope you can see the progress you HAVE made. Your work has had results. Pat yourself on the back and smile: even just a little bit. I am going to. Then I am going to get back to work.

 
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January 22, 2007, 3:27 pm PST

mental health issues

Quote From: chjude1

 That is scary, there are a lot of problems in my own family. One large  one due to the fact that my 22nd year old son who is mentally ill because his biological mother took drugs is one. My husband and my other grown children have  had to deal with these mental illness issues, never mind the fact that my Son will never have a normal life because of someone elses problems. We have always gotten help for him and continue in many different ways to help including letiing other agencys help him. So , I guess, my point which isn't coming out clearly is. these shows kindof make me sick. Here we did nothing but help our Son and the problems never end for him or us and this family with that Aunt is just so terrible. Yelling, pointing fingers, drinking problems  and on and on. I hate this particular show because is shows such dispare and we  here at our house, who have only tried to get the help my Son needs, sees a family that has been in denial for God knows how long. I wish there could be some happy endings to  these t ype of problems , but when you have family memebers that make things worse, it will be nearly impossible. All of a suddend the girl won't be ok, just because Dr. Phil stepped in. It will be because of his vast resources and ties that can get the girl away from her family.
My Son, like many other metally ill people , who need help and many times  refuse it will continue to struggle along day by day. That's life, there are no guarinteens, I know, and sorry about the spelling issues here,  but I will not give up on my Son , but with the laws the way they are, there is only so much I can do . He must want help also and if t here are other  poeple out there with relatives with mental health issues, le me know......sable
Sable, I feel for you. We have similar problems. Our daughter is 21 now and refuses to take her medications.  We've been to hell and back with her for the past 7 years,  therapy, meds, hospitalization in a locked unit, special programs. We are no longer young but have realized we can never retire as all our money went for her care, etc. Insurance does not fuly cover mental illnesses. And now that she is an adult she is on her own legally and cannot be covered on her father's health insurance. She, of course, cannot afford health insurance and her jobs never offer anything. She is not incompetent. Just unwell. I understand your pain that Dr. Phil is helping others and not you. Maybe someday he'll do a show on parents of adult children with mental illness. It is painful but we must accept that their lives are out of our control and we can only be there to pick up the pieces if necessary. Don't give up on your son. It's hard, but hang in there for his sake.
 


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