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I have been in a relationship with a woman for about 6 months now and she was married but separated at the time with 3 boys,she has been married 2 times herself, she has told me from the beginning she never wants to get married ever again and the reason is both her marriages ended very badly the last 1 has been the worst he is deceitful and was cheating on her and very abusive verbally and physically. We fell in love with each other and over the last few months we have gotten closer and closer, we both feel the same way about issues other than she is so afraid of marriage that I wonder what will happen to us I want to be married again some day not tomorrow but 1 day and she just has a bad outlook on it. My question is when do you know that you are not wasting your time and energy on someone? I love her more than life and would do anything for her I show her everyday that I see her how much she means to me and I get the same in return . We are always together each day until 10pm that is when her separation papers say I have to leave but we get weekends together when they are not there, I feel like it will always be this way is that wrong ? I am not sure but I know this I would marry her today that is where I don't know where the relationship goes she hates to see me go but we will never live together because we both agree that it is wrong to teach the kids that way of life. I know in my heart she is the one for me, I am just scared to know that I will leave at 10 pm for the rest of my life and get the occasional weekend with her when the boys are not there, we get along pretty good for them meeting me about 2months ago. Here is the other dilemma the boys play sports 7 days a week and run her crazy they are spoiled and she will even tell you that she knows they are but her statement to me is if I don't like it I can leave and in the same breath she tells me how much she loves me.

WHAT DO I DO?

I need HELP