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January 24, 2007, 11:46 am PST
 Quote From: juliebgg I agree with you about people pushing by you without saying "excuse me" and more often than not people don't say "thank you 'for a simple gesture like holding a door open. i find that woman and children are like this just as often as men. People seem to have a sense of entitlement-that it is their right to have a door held open for them and that they don't need to show any gratitude. Add to the list the people who shout into their cell phones at restaurants, people who block aisles and doorways in the stores, rudeness from customer service people on the phone. The list goes on and on.
I teach young children, and I can see where the rudeness starts. Many parents don't teach basic consideration and manners to their kids. Rare is the child that says "please' and " thank you". I do try to teach the kids in my class to say "please' and "thank you", but unless it is reinforced by parents it won't stick. Kids are also very spoiled and self-centered. There is such a prevailing "me me me" attitude even with very young children. Materialism starts real young. Girls with Coach bags are getting younger and younger, and they put others down who don't have these things. Parents, do any of you see yourselves here? If I got even one person to think about teaching their kids some manners, then today was a good day! I believe "self-centeredness" is getting more and more common. Kids think that they are owed something. Like that show "sweet 16" on MTV... those kids are rediculous. They throw a fit if they don't get exactly what they want. Years ago, even when my parents were growing up, kids realized they have to work for what they want and it doesn't just magically appear infront of you when you throw a fit. Parents don't always teach their children that. They are too worried about not making their children mad or being their child's friend, instead of disipline and showing them the way the world is...instead of the way they want it to be. It's not just the parents fault either...it's society. We as a country...as a world... are materialistic and self centered. People worry too much about themselves and not what they can do to make the world a little nicer. Holding doors...saying hello to people passing you on the street...helping the older woman walk up the steps...JUST COMMON RESPECT!!! |
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January 25, 2007, 7:19 am PST
Quote From: juliebgg I agree with you about people pushing by you without saying "excuse me" and more often than not people don't say "thank you 'for a simple gesture like holding a door open. i find that woman and children are like this just as often as men. People seem to have a sense of entitlement-that it is their right to have a door held open for them and that they don't need to show any gratitude. Add to the list the people who shout into their cell phones at restaurants, people who block aisles and doorways in the stores, rudeness from customer service people on the phone. The list goes on and on.
I teach young children, and I can see where the rudeness starts. Many parents don't teach basic consideration and manners to their kids. Rare is the child that says "please' and " thank you". I do try to teach the kids in my class to say "please' and "thank you", but unless it is reinforced by parents it won't stick. Kids are also very spoiled and self-centered. There is such a prevailing "me me me" attitude even with very young children. Materialism starts real young. Girls with Coach bags are getting younger and younger, and they put others down who don't have these things. Parents, do any of you see yourselves here? If I got even one person to think about teaching their kids some manners, then today was a good day! I see kids becoming more self-centered than ever before. I used to hear about how self-esteem was missing in girls. Now I think we've gone too far the other way. I also see girls being extremely mean to other girls if they don't look a certain way or dress a certain way. And I see boys who cannot mutter hello or speak to adults at all.
I have step children and my husband does a poor job of training his kids to be respectful and kind to others. They have a high sense of entitlement without having to earn or even saying thank you. And they rarely give of themselves to others. They have poor manners at dinner and they rush through doors ahead of adults. I can't stand the way they talk back to their dad and he just lets them. I see their friends doing the same thing. They judge each other by what kind of car your dad drives and they are very focused on what kind of house you live in and what kind of job your dad has. Some brag about their dad's salary.Why would a kid even be told what his dad's salary is? Isn't that private?
I really worry what our world is going to be like in ten years when all these kids are out in the working world. Can you imagine how it would be to have to work with these pretentious and self-centered manipulating people?
Does anyone think that maybe the results of broken families has sparked this change in our culture? I think the main reason parents try to be friends instead of parents comes from the guilt thay have from ruining their kids family lives. And when they compete for the kids love and loyalty with an ex, it teaches the kids to play by the game to get what they want. But the rudenes from our youth doesn't just come from kids from broken families. So, how has it prevailed among their peers?
It is sad that our culture is declining in this way. I'd love to hear more about some positive things in our world. |
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