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February 1, 2007, 10:56 am PST

And Then...

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thats really not fair for all of you to say i should want to met him and i get over it. why dont you try living your wole life with neither parents. One was dead and never coming back, and one was in prison because he killed her. I cant explain why i was feeling that way. i guess still after all he has done he my father. I;m not going to let anyone make ne fell bad for what I want and how i feel. SO untill you have been though what ive been though you should'nt say those things like; get over it, move on you, i dont understand whay she wants to met him. Since hte show i now know i dont want anything to do with because of what he did i just wanted to meet who my father was and maybe something.  My life is better off without him.

I can understand the frustration you feel with everyone telling you how you should feel and behave.  The problem is that, for better or worse, you did choose to have this on national television.  Your choice placed you in the public eye.  It may not seem fair, but you have to expect public reaction.  I am sure that, even with the varied comments, people do really wish you well.  I know I do.
 

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February 1, 2007, 1:31 pm PST

02/01 A Difficult Reunion – Part 1

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thats really not fair for all of you to say i should want to met him and i get over it. why dont you try living your wole life with neither parents. One was dead and never coming back, and one was in prison because he killed her. I cant explain why i was feeling that way. i guess still after all he has done he my father. I;m not going to let anyone make ne fell bad for what I want and how i feel. SO untill you have been though what ive been though you should'nt say those things like; get over it, move on you, i dont understand whay she wants to met him. Since hte show i now know i dont want anything to do with because of what he did i just wanted to meet who my father was and maybe something.  My life is better off without him.

You go girl!  I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I know how you feel.  My mother was murdered in 1982 by my step-father.  He is now dead and I will never know the whole story.  Its a closure I'll never feel.  I am proud of you and awe-struck at your courage.  Hold your head high and know there are some of us who really do understand.
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February 1, 2007, 2:25 pm PST

You're right, it's really not fair.

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thats really not fair for all of you to say i should want to met him and i get over it. why dont you try living your wole life with neither parents. One was dead and never coming back, and one was in prison because he killed her. I cant explain why i was feeling that way. i guess still after all he has done he my father. I;m not going to let anyone make ne fell bad for what I want and how i feel. SO untill you have been though what ive been though you should'nt say those things like; get over it, move on you, i dont understand whay she wants to met him. Since hte show i now know i dont want anything to do with because of what he did i just wanted to meet who my father was and maybe something.  My life is better off without him.

Erica, I haven't read any posts from anyone who has been through what you've lived through. I can't tell you how much I respect your bravery and conviction to see this through. I can only imagine how nervous you were,because I was nervous watching. I'm glad you did it the way you did because I felt that you were safer by being in a controlled environment. At least you can control what kind of relationship you may or may not have with your dad. It's not out of your control like it was 20 years ago. And who knows, maybe he will clean up his act. Whatever you decide to do in your heart of hearts will be your own decision. I wish you the very best.
 
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February 1, 2007, 2:41 pm PST

what's right for you

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thats really not fair for all of you to say i should want to met him and i get over it. why dont you try living your wole life with neither parents. One was dead and never coming back, and one was in prison because he killed her. I cant explain why i was feeling that way. i guess still after all he has done he my father. I;m not going to let anyone make ne fell bad for what I want and how i feel. SO untill you have been though what ive been though you should'nt say those things like; get over it, move on you, i dont understand whay she wants to met him. Since hte show i now know i dont want anything to do with because of what he did i just wanted to meet who my father was and maybe something.  My life is better off without him.

You have to do what is right for YOU.  Your decision may not be what someone else would do, but that doesn't mean it's not the right thing for you to do for yourself.  I can't imagine living the life you have lived, the things you have gone through, etc.  I hope you have found whatever it is you were looking for by doing this.  I think you are a very strong person to have done this.  Ignore all the negative that people have to say.  A lot of people love to tear other people down.  You did what you needed to do for yourself...to heal yourself, find closure, etc.  I wish you every happiness life has to offer!! 

 
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February 1, 2007, 7:17 pm PST

Don't listen to other people

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thats really not fair for all of you to say i should want to met him and i get over it. why dont you try living your wole life with neither parents. One was dead and never coming back, and one was in prison because he killed her. I cant explain why i was feeling that way. i guess still after all he has done he my father. I;m not going to let anyone make ne fell bad for what I want and how i feel. SO untill you have been though what ive been though you should'nt say those things like; get over it, move on you, i dont understand whay she wants to met him. Since hte show i now know i dont want anything to do with because of what he did i just wanted to meet who my father was and maybe something.  My life is better off without him.

You are exactly right, it isn't fair for these people to say what you should or shouldn't do.  You felt that you wanted to meet him and ask him some questions and you had every right.  I hope you haven't let these people's opinions hurt you.  As you said, they are not in your situation and so they have no right to judge you.  I wish you well and hope that after meeting your father you are able to move on and that you are able to really find happiness in your life.
 
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February 1, 2007, 9:02 pm PST

I agree with you

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thats really not fair for all of you to say i should want to met him and i get over it. why dont you try living your wole life with neither parents. One was dead and never coming back, and one was in prison because he killed her. I cant explain why i was feeling that way. i guess still after all he has done he my father. I;m not going to let anyone make ne fell bad for what I want and how i feel. SO untill you have been though what ive been though you should'nt say those things like; get over it, move on you, i dont understand whay she wants to met him. Since hte show i now know i dont want anything to do with because of what he did i just wanted to meet who my father was and maybe something.  My life is better off without him.

I say if you want to meet him (which you have, as I'm watching the show now)-then I support it 100%!!!  You are only human and you feel the way you feel.  I grew up without a father - granted he did not kill my mother - but in some sense he did take my mother away from me EMOTIONALLY!!  My mother was so depressed and emotionally withdrawn because my father abandoned us, and it was difficult.  I'm the youngest out of three kids and I felt the same way about my father - wanting to meet him. I did and that was it.  We have no relationship, but I think I needed that reunion to have closure.  I think you needed this reunion for the same reason.  And if meeting him to get that closure is what you need to do, then do it.   And well...thats what you did...and now you have that closure.  You'll find now that this was necessary and moving on with your life will be that much easier.  Good luck! 

 


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