Quote From: zipping7 Stereotyped men have no right to treat women like merchandise, sex machine's & tax deduction's!!! I think somehow we need to get to the root of this major problem. Through the year's while these men grew up, they forgot, how they treated their Mother's. Evidently, they take their anger & frustration's out on the one's they say they LOVE. Just because they weren't taught how to seek medical attention for their trauma's.
My Husband, seems to think a woman's place is doing all the home chore's & working as hard as a Man does. He is so possessive & degrading to me, especially in front of other's. I know deep down inside himself, there is a trauma & he fights with his own demon's, cause he also degrades himself.
I think part of our adult life solution could be continued Education! But, to implement this, I have found, the only way would be to involve the Law.. I found this easier said, then done!!!!!!
All & any feedback would be greatly appreciated.. Desperate Wife
Your husband sounds exactly like my sister's (she's been married 14 years). It took my sister LEAVING for two years and getting herself counseling before they got back together and he MADE HIMSELF change. They are now happy together and living a great life. If she had not taken action herself, she would still be miserable today...with him or divorced from him.
Take control of your life. Take control of you. Take off the victim label. You teach him how to treat you. You've allowed him to walk on you. Only you can make him stop.
If he is possessive an degrading to you (as well as to himself), he is angry and sad. He doesn't like himsef or his life. You are the easy target of his anger and sadness. At least with fighting, he gets your attention. He feels he has some control, some power. He feels important for a few moments.
You don't need continuing education. YOu need to get into counseling with or WITHOUT him. Once he sees that you are emotionally healthy and won't allow him to bring you down, he'll either step up to the plate and get help for himself or he won't....then it's up to you to make a decison about what is best for you and your children. Abuse is never best for anyone.
God bless you. You know you must act. Stop waiting to be rescued;nothing will change until you require change. I have faith in you!
