Quote From: penny_ladyHow do I even start to make my comments on a post like this...sigh...
I will only make 3 remarks
1-I find it offensive that you would lump all Hispanic men the way you have.
2-You seem to have this idea that women want flowers and not respect. I have never in my life wanted flowers. Flowers and candy aren't some respect band-aid to placate a little woman.
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"Respect our husbands whether they deserve it or not, and husbands are to love their wives whether they deserve it or not." Is this a joke? Why would you waste emotions and time on people who don't earn it?
She didnt lump all Hispanic men, I lilve in texas and I know they are very possesive and controlling. It is their culture to be that way. Dont pretend its not real. IT IS REAL! Ive dated them.
Of course not all are the same. But its true they have a culture that is different. They "ALLOW" things that my family NEVER ALLOWED. It was a big surprise to me to see it and learn it.
Dont know her because she likes flowers. I totally understand what this lady is talking about. Men do want respect. Ive learned that from my church pastor, and from 2 marriage counselors. Its the MAIN THING they want. We want symbols of love. It might be something different from you, but Im sorry, RESPECT is not the main thing I want from a man. I recommend you read "The 5 Love Languages" Some women want Physical affection, some want words that are sweet, some want gifts, some want your time and some want "acts of service".
Even Dr. Phil talks about how robin loved it when he gave her chocolate eclairs. He jokes "I knew her currency was food, so I could get Robin to do anything for a chocolate eclair."
Please dont know this lady. She is very wise.
We should respect our husbands, ev en when they dont deserve it. Dont you know about wedding vows "Love is always patient, Love is always kind, love doesnt keep a record of wrongs, love never fails," Even though my main has been mean to me, I try to remember what the Pastor told us on our wedding day and I tried to remember Corinthians.
Maybe this person is very young and unmarried and doesnt understand. Maybe not. Maybe you are just stronger than some of us. But dont knock this lady. She makes a lot of sense to me, and im 43 and a grandmother and been married 15 years this time and would of been 26 if not for the first divorce.
Thanks for listening.
Dont judge someone unless you've walked a mile in their shoes. Gods Blessings.
