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February 8, 2007, 4:18 pm PST

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I am the mother of a 15  yr. old boy who has been stealing underwear since he was about 8 or 9. H'es taken it from his older sister, myself and others. I am so worried that this behavior will escalate. I have done everything! possible. He's been in counseling, he's on medication for bi-polar disorder, He sees his psychiatrist, etc. We are now going thru Community Mental Health and the best they can offer us is "Theraputic" Foster Care! He was already in this kind of care for 6 months and it didn't help. Now they want to do it again. When he comes home for visits, he acts out. It is an impossible situation. My husband (19 yrs.) and I are trying to get him into a residential treatment facility but the state (MI) won't pay for it. I love my son very much and it devestates me to think of him not living a healthy life but I Really worry that he might hurt someone else. My Point? I think it should be easier to access treatment for our young people that are displaying these kind of disorders. I've tried to be pro-active to no avail. I've even asked Dr. Phil for help. Nothing yet. Most of these offenders began devient behavior in adolesence or earlier. We should learn to recognize it then and then treat it. It would save a Ton of money in incarceration costs not to mention the cost to potential victims. My son has never hurt anyone but taking their intimates is an extreme personal violation. We have tried to keep my daughter safe by locking doors etc. He finds a way. I just wish someone could help us help him. Just thought I'd share.

but responding to something previous poster said.

 

Hire an educational lawyer and get the school district to pay for a therapeutic setting, don't bother trying to get the state to pay for it.  If you can't afford a lawyer, go to your state's education advocacy center and get a FREE advocate.  Does he have an IEP? 

 

You are absolutely right when you say we need to pay attention to these issues when the children are young.  He needs treatment NOW.

 

Also, see what you can get beside community mental health.  I know there are wonderful people working in these agencies, but treating a child with bi-polar is very specialized.

 

Another option is to call your insurance company and try to get them to pay for  a therapeutic placement. 

 

 

 

 
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February 8, 2007, 8:16 pm PST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

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I am the mother of a 15  yr. old boy who has been stealing underwear since he was about 8 or 9. H'es taken it from his older sister, myself and others. I am so worried that this behavior will escalate. I have done everything! possible. He's been in counseling, he's on medication for bi-polar disorder, He sees his psychiatrist, etc. We are now going thru Community Mental Health and the best they can offer us is "Theraputic" Foster Care! He was already in this kind of care for 6 months and it didn't help. Now they want to do it again. When he comes home for visits, he acts out. It is an impossible situation. My husband (19 yrs.) and I are trying to get him into a residential treatment facility but the state (MI) won't pay for it. I love my son very much and it devestates me to think of him not living a healthy life but I Really worry that he might hurt someone else. My Point? I think it should be easier to access treatment for our young people that are displaying these kind of disorders. I've tried to be pro-active to no avail. I've even asked Dr. Phil for help. Nothing yet. Most of these offenders began devient behavior in adolesence or earlier. We should learn to recognize it then and then treat it. It would save a Ton of money in incarceration costs not to mention the cost to potential victims. My son has never hurt anyone but taking their intimates is an extreme personal violation. We have tried to keep my daughter safe by locking doors etc. He finds a way. I just wish someone could help us help him. Just thought I'd share.

I feel your pain.  We as a society need to help these kids with emotional problems before they get out of hand.  It is much easier to find help for cancer or AIDS, but anything mental or emotional comes with a stigmatism.  Something needs to be done!!
 
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February 16, 2007, 12:54 am PST

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I am the mother of a 15  yr. old boy who has been stealing underwear since he was about 8 or 9. H'es taken it from his older sister, myself and others. I am so worried that this behavior will escalate. I have done everything! possible. He's been in counseling, he's on medication for bi-polar disorder, He sees his psychiatrist, etc. We are now going thru Community Mental Health and the best they can offer us is "Theraputic" Foster Care! He was already in this kind of care for 6 months and it didn't help. Now they want to do it again. When he comes home for visits, he acts out. It is an impossible situation. My husband (19 yrs.) and I are trying to get him into a residential treatment facility but the state (MI) won't pay for it. I love my son very much and it devestates me to think of him not living a healthy life but I Really worry that he might hurt someone else. My Point? I think it should be easier to access treatment for our young people that are displaying these kind of disorders. I've tried to be pro-active to no avail. I've even asked Dr. Phil for help. Nothing yet. Most of these offenders began devient behavior in adolesence or earlier. We should learn to recognize it then and then treat it. It would save a Ton of money in incarceration costs not to mention the cost to potential victims. My son has never hurt anyone but taking their intimates is an extreme personal violation. We have tried to keep my daughter safe by locking doors etc. He finds a way. I just wish someone could help us help him. Just thought I'd share.

what is your son's attitude about his behavior? does he have friends? how is he at school? does he recognize that what he does can hurt people and that it separates him from society, when as a teenager all one wants is to fit in and be liked? what is his attitude about therapy and his psychiatrists/counselors? i have gone to therapy for depression and i can tell you that a lot of my therapists and i didn't connect and that connecting is essential for healing. i think thomas is using cognitive restructuring to change his obsessive thinking. if therapy is not helping with the current therapist, find another one...don't give up...many people have problems in this world and many have over come......c.k.
 


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