Quote From: katielilieI believe it is absolutely deplorable that you refer to your own children as "drama children." I don't know how old your children are but by using this word with them you are giving them a label that they make take years to get away from. My parents often used this word with me and I am in therapy now learning that feelings do not equal "drama." Sure we may not know the full story, maybe the child
is prone to overreacting. Children have difficulty gaining perspective on their own feelings so to them the way they are feeling is of the utmost importance, which is why they sometimes seem as if they think that they are at the center of the universe. It's hard for them to imagine how another person must be feeling, as Dr. Phil often says their brains still have a lot of growing to do. The way the mother appeared to have been acting was completely inexcusable however; she is a grown woman and the adult in the situaion. She has no excuse to be screaming at her children like that. That little girl had to have been completely terrified because at that moment the world consisted of her mother, the person who is supposed to be her advocate on this earth, beating her down psychologically and scaring her to the point of physical illness. That's not drama! When a child's body reacts in such a serious way it is very very real. I'm sure after watching the show we will know more of the story. For the sake of your own children please stop describing them with this label.
You have never seen dramatic people in life? Drama queens? Well, hello, I'm Jen, nice to meet you. I'm a complete drama queen. I blow many things out of proportion. When I was 5 or 6 years old I learned to run upstairs and slam the door for attention or effect or whatever. I learned how to make myself cry for attention, even if nothing was wrong at all what so ever. I learned it from t.v. and I'm talking about old time tv not the craziness out there now. But it didn't go over quite the same way in my home because eventually, I had no door left to slam. Oh well. I still to this day though get dramatic and I'm working on changing that because it makes things difficult.
There are children who simply are overly dramatic, and that is wonderful! Why change it? I mean unless it really is causing a huge disruption in the family, why not let that child be who they are. Maybe enroll them in theater or something so they can be dramatic where it is appropriate? Otherwise perhaps they do need therapy. I just hope to god or whomever that someone teaches them at some point that they are not the center of the universe. (otherwise that would explain the many ego-centric people in this world).
While I don't think that was the case with this family on the program today, I really do believe that this woman is abusive. And I believe that the children deserve better, a healthy safe environment to grow and learn in. There was nothing dramatic about this situation it was real. But everyone isn't like this woman and every child isn't like your children or other children. If someone says they are dramatic or has a dramatic child, that very well could be the honest case.
But I'm a drama baby and I wouldn't care if my mother referred to me that way. Just try for one moment to see it from someone else's perspective and not your own.
