Quote From: islander67Once the Infedelity Virus enters the relationship, both parties must agree on one of only two choices; ACCEPT THE SITUATION or LEAVE THE SITUATION!
In order to forgive, work things out and continue the relationship, you MUST AGREE WITH YOURSELF, that you will ACCEPT, put up with, and endure your travel on a whole, new road of a relationship and ALL kinds of new obstacles, that WILL spring up along the way!
The offended will become more angry and struggle with suspicion and jelousy, while the offender will be more passive and struggle to tolerate their partner's new behavior. Bless you, if you are strong enough to handle that struggle and Bless you if you are wise to LEAVE IT!
A friend of mine once told me, "Their was one infidelity in our marriage, when my husband had an affair with my cousin, who is a model in Europe. We've worked through it and I struggled with forgiveness for the following two years, but our relationship has gotten better." I then asked her, "Are you absolutely sure that things are better? And, are you sure that he's not fooling around anymore?" Needless to say, those questions did, pretty much end our friendship. But, I heard from another, that the couple did divorce for unknown reasons.
I can tell you EXACTLY why they divorced. YOU STUCK YOUR NOSE IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You brought up all the pain and suspicion that she had worked so hard to get passed. YOU are the reason they divorced!!!! You had no right to do that and you ought to be ashamed of yourself!
