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My heart goes out to you this Valentines Day and I will be thinking of you. I really wish there was something to say to make this better for you but I know no matter what i or anyone else says will not make this any easier for you.  Do you have family to spend the holiday with? I truely hope so. I am sure all of us in this messege room wish you all the best in life and feel very bad for your lose. I will be thinking of you!

yes it is sad you lost your true love, but I always look at it this way.. if she was sick she is  in a better place now. And I am sure she would not want you to be sad... My husband and I lost my grandfather to a blood clot that went to his heart four years ago and then a year later we lost his grandmother to pancreatic cancer.  I always look at things this way, everything happens for a reason which we might not understand at this moment but sooner or later we will know what that reason is... Have you ever thought about making a donation in your wifes name to a kidney disease foundation... or to someother foundation such as cancer, or red cross etc.

I am sorry about your loss. I can actually feel your pain here but I do think you need to do something good here, doing something in her name as some one else mention could be a good thing, donating money the kidney foundation or maybe even some volunteer work. Also, you can help keep your memories alive, maybe try putting a scrap book, collage tye thing together of your wife and your time with her, reflect on the postitve and at the same time get your self active and be happy, which I can bet this is what she would want for you. I know, easier said then done, but one day at a time and you can do this, allow your self to grieve all that you need to, seek help if need to, you sound like a great loving person and I am sure your wife felt the same way..............

So sorry to hear about your loss... I too am alone and I ended up fixing supper for my son and family.....

I know what it is like to be alone and sometimes wish I could meet someone... If you would like to email me at suziq1232003@yahoo.com... I would love to visit with you...

Happy Valentine's Day to you and I hope you take the time to find someone that will treat you right...   You sound like a nice man.

 

Sincerely,

Suzi

You've received many responses, but here's one more just in case you're still searching for answers....

 

You know what makes me feel better? Helping others really boosts my mood. When I assist at the local food pantry or even drop off my daughter to help work w/ her grandfather at a local shelter that serves food, I feel SOOOOOO much more fulfilled and happy.

 

What a way to honor your precious wife.....by giving back to others in need or distress. You could even volunteer at the agency in your area that raises money or collects items to sell for those with kidney disease.

 

There are so many people who could use your help...so many agencies wanting and needing volunteers, shelters, pantries, hospitals, etc.. And who knows, perhaps when you are ready, you might meet another very special person who, like you, is volunteering her time to help others.

 

God bless you during this difficult time. May you not isolate yourself or forget that there are people who love you, need you and want your company. Your wife would want you to be happy...to move forward.

 

I know you can do it. MAKE yourself do it. Do it for HER; I'm sure she is looking down at you right this minute and rooting for you.