I have been abused by both male and female, the female was my own mother starting while I was very, very young. It is a hard thing to get over and affects my whole life. Getting control and trying to live a whole life can be done I am told, still searching. There is a good book, "The Courage to Heal" I have the book and it even talks about that kind of thing, so maybe you could get it , buy it, and work on some things there. Therapy is good for me too. Talking and sharing can help too. that is why I am here, I guess.
Hope that helps a bit.
mj
