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September 22, 2005, 6:38 pm PDT
 Quote From: gjcarr003 This episode is so scary to me. I know that there are times that I yell and scream at my kids, like after I ask them to do something about 10 times and they still don't, then I yell. I try not to, and afterwards, when I calm down I go talk to the kids to make sure they are ok and to let them know that I am sorry for yelling and then we talk about what they did that caused me to be upset, then we hug and kiss. I love my kids, and hate that I do lose it sometimes and it gets taken out on them. It's not daily, like this woman said, nor is it even weekly...it's just when I get really frustrated with everything else and then they don't listen. My girls are very spoiled and get away with more than they should...and they are only 10 months, 3 and 4. Of course, the two oldest are the only ones that get disciplined. We usually do time-outs. They get hard sometimes, but being a stay at home mom, it's not always going to be roses, lol. I know that I am nothing like this woman on the show, but it does scare me that at times, I am a little bit like her. One thing I am very much against, no matter how upset I get with my children, I refuse to swear or call them stupid or anything like that. I remember being told that I couldn't do anything right just one time when I was younger, and that still sticks with me. It only took that one time to hear those words, and I still feel like I can't do anything right. I don't want my kids to feel that way.
OK, this turned into a book...part of staying at home 24/7 with little kids, never going anywhere without them, lol. I know exactly how you feel. When I was young, whenever mom got mad at me (which was often) she'd say "I wish to God you were never born". I'm 49 and I can still hear those words in my head, just like it was yesterday. The only good thing that came out of that, was that I made sure I didn't use those words with my kids. They're all grown up now & I've never used that remark on them, ever!!
Hang in there kiddo. Take it one day at a time; one incident at a time. You have lots of little ones at home & I know how frustrating it can be. But remember: they are just little kids acting their ages. They aren't going to be perfect. They've got lots of growing up to do. Pick your fights carefully & don't sweat the small stuff. I hate to sound like a cliche', but it's the truth & it works. Add a little silliness to your days. Even today, I sometimes serve a backwards dinner (dessert first; then the main meal). Or we have dinner for breakfast & breakfast for dinner. Or make the beds while the kids are still in it. Try to smooth out the "lumps" & tickle `em. My kids laughter was like a symphony orchestra. God bless you for trying so hard to be a good mommy. Your efforts will not go unrewarded. |
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