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Replies to '09/19 "Afraid of My Mom"'
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September 19, 2005, 3:19 pm PDT
 Quote From: momakababe As a mother watching this show & then seeing all the posters here in shock & horror of this womans behavior & then to see you defend her or relate in a way where you are justifying her (&your behavior) it means you're in troube too. Not only are you in trouble but so are your KIDS. While everyone is sitting here wondering why the father didn't truely come to the rescue of his daughters (frankly I thought he was at a loss of what to do) you're wondering why he didn't come to the rescue of his wife?! I'm a mom too & I understand how difficult it can be when we're raising kids & they don't always do the right thing & they don't always listen & they can have selective hearing, but they're not doing this to be mean to mom & mom doesn't need protection. They're the kids & SHE'S the adult. If she needs a time out then she should be grown up enough to realize it & take it period. She shouldn't be waiting for anything. When you said "look who's left behind" I thought you were going to say "the kids" but you're still seeing the mother in need. The kids have been traumatized by this woman & yes he's walking away because that's how he DOES CONTROL himself. That was his time out he gave himself. An adult has to recognize it & then take it. & in reality what I heard him say was "I can not deal with *you* right now". He was not speaking of the situation with the kids he was talking about dealing with his wife's her of control anger. With that said it wasn't her that was left with the kids & cleaning it was the KIDS that were left with HER & the CLEANING. You didn't see that?
I watched this father kooooo to his daughter to pry her out of a closet where she was sitting hyperventilating & then proceeding to toss her cookies & you think it isn't her complete fault or that she has no control? Certainly she does but first she has to see she's got a problem & if your view is this distorted I believe you've got to see this too. If social services are at your house perhaps it's a distorted view that prevents you from seeing that it isn't just because of a "lack of money & such" Unless the such is you screaming & brow beating the kids. I think what you need is to RUN not walk to the first therapist you can find & help sort out your problems. If it's not really a anger management problem then you'll at least have someone to talk out what's on your mind. & all that stuff about you protecting your kids from society I do understand, but if you're verbally & emotionally abusing them they need protection from you! First of all, let me start by saying I'm glad your not on the socail service side of the world. Due to the fact that I'd think you'd take everyone's children away from them even though their parent's are reaching out and asking for help. Is that how you would help your children? They ask for help and you give them up for adoption or send them away? That to me doesn't make for a good reason to take anyone's child away. What I saw was a women looking to anyone for help and having the whole world tell her all that she is doing wrong. Well something she is doing right is, she is asking for help. They look fed and no bruises that a teacher or someone outside of the family has noticed. I think honestly that the father had more to excuse himself from other then, she is with them all day. Everyone is saying there is help but I took the time to look around the room becuase it didn't look like they were living in the lab of luxuriy and maybe humblilng herself to the entire nation was her only way to get the help she feels that she needs. To explain about socail services comment I made, I live in a gated community where everyone knows everyone, and when somone is upset or other at another person they normally call socail services when the other person child walkes throught their yard or sneezes too hard. You know that anyone can call socail servies on you as many times as they want and you have to go through the intervew as many times as they call? My neighbor honestly is a good mother but doesn't play well with other mothers and so she has had socal servies called on her a total of 6 times in a course of 3 years. All have been dropped but goes to show how many people could have and should have taken the steps to remedy the situation. This women rely's on her husband to be the checks and balances that the socail services provides and he isn't stepping up to the plate. So needless to say she is in her little world thinking that is the way to live because nobody else has showed her or told her otherwise. So in a word this is all of our faults because we are a society of not getting involved. Maybe we need to look at ourselfs and think of how we could have helped her and still can help her to make her life better. She has it in her mind that everyone is evil and out to get her and nobody loves her. Just imagine what that must have felt like to in one day, in one second, to find out in front of everyone that your husband hates the way you raise your children, and your children really don't love you and that you need help because what you think is right is deadly wrong because nobody has told you any different. So what does that say about us? |
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