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February 25, 2007, 12:50 am PST

03/02 Caught in the Act

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I am sorry this is the only time Dr.Phil and I disagree. CHEATING. Okay so a one time fling, people can work through it hopefully, mistakes happen, but they do not happen over and over and over again. Then it's a different story. The cheater has tow lives he has a "relationship" with the other person, even if it is only sex. He cheated on his wife, he cheating on himself and he cheated on his vows. ( If there are kids involved he's cheated on them). Cut your losses and leave. You can't fix something that doesn't exist and there is no marriage when there is a cheater.

I personally know people who have had affairs and they moved on and were forgiven and never did it again.

It's a nice platitude, and people seem to fall in line on things that sound good, but "once a cheater always a cheater" isn't "always" true.

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February 25, 2007, 5:33 pm PST

03/02 Caught in the Act

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I am sorry this is the only time Dr.Phil and I disagree. CHEATING. Okay so a one time fling, people can work through it hopefully, mistakes happen, but they do not happen over and over and over again. Then it's a different story. The cheater has tow lives he has a "relationship" with the other person, even if it is only sex. He cheated on his wife, he cheating on himself and he cheated on his vows. ( If there are kids involved he's cheated on them). Cut your losses and leave. You can't fix something that doesn't exist and there is no marriage when there is a cheater.

We all make mistakes as no one is perfect but we don't have to make the same mistake over again. if one wants to change, they can, it's possible, depends on whether they really want to or not.

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March 2, 2007, 10:05 am PST

Absolutely agree

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I am sorry this is the only time Dr.Phil and I disagree. CHEATING. Okay so a one time fling, people can work through it hopefully, mistakes happen, but they do not happen over and over and over again. Then it's a different story. The cheater has tow lives he has a "relationship" with the other person, even if it is only sex. He cheated on his wife, he cheating on himself and he cheated on his vows. ( If there are kids involved he's cheated on them). Cut your losses and leave. You can't fix something that doesn't exist and there is no marriage when there is a cheater.

I have left my last marriage because of cheating and remarried but I've told my current husband up front that if he cheats, he's out, no excuses, plain and simple. I'm going to a divorce lawyer immediately with no regrets. I was a single mother for a while making less monay, I can do it again. I don't want to go through this hell again. Fortunately my husband is much better than my ex and we have better relationship now. I agree that once a cheater is always a cheater. sara should just leave this *&%$@ and move on. She is a wonderful, loving woman and deserves better!

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Absolutely agree