Replies to '08/03 Caught in the Act'

 While I don't personally know of anyone who's survived an affair and never had it reoccur, I believe it is possible.  I have a diference of opinion between my husband and I about the way Dr. Phil talks to the men who've cheated on their wives.  He thinks that Dr. Phil is all about the "making the story good for TV" and that when men tell him they've been trying this or that, are sorry, etc, that Dr. Phil doesn't listen to them.  I agree with Dr. Phil, though. I tell my husband he just doesn't get it - that he stresses that "unless and until you really understand how much the other person has been hurt"  that Dr. Phil knows that the person hasn't really gotten to that point of realization.  Anyone else debate this with their husbands or know what I'm talking about?   I find it hard  to describe the situation.  But it does seem that Dr. Phil stresses that point over and over about the "unless and until" part.  I think maybe my husband just doesn't get it.  In either case,we both agree we'd never be on national TV airing our dirty laundry!

"Few" would be the word here. Just look at the stats of people who cheat and then marry their mistresses, etc.

 

When you can't trust your spouse (because he cheated with you), that's a lousy foundation on which to build a marriage. As Dr. Phil says, "Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior."

 

Some do forgive, stop cheating and rekindle their marriages, but sadly they are not in the majority.