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March 2, 2007, 9:59 pm PST
I think I understand!
Quote From: marshella1 While I don't personally know of anyone who's survived an affair and never had it reoccur, I believe it is possible. I have a diference of opinion between my husband and I about the way Dr. Phil talks to the men who've cheated on their wives. He thinks that Dr. Phil is all about the "making the story good for TV" and that when men tell him they've been trying this or that, are sorry, etc, that Dr. Phil doesn't listen to them. I agree with Dr. Phil, though. I tell my husband he just doesn't get it - that he stresses that "unless and until you really understand how much the other person has been hurt" that Dr. Phil knows that the person hasn't really gotten to that point of realization. Anyone else debate this with their husbands or know what I'm talking about? I find it hard to describe the situation. But it does seem that Dr. Phil stresses that point over and over about the "unless and until" part. I think maybe my husband just doesn't get it. In either case,we both agree we'd never be on national TV airing our dirty laundry! Yes, I debated that very issue with my ex. after his 3rd affair, and no he didn't get it in the least. We have been divored for 5 years now, and about 6 months ago I got a very long email from him telling me how sorry he was for all the hurt, he caused me. I think he does understand alittle better, But not enough to have a face to face with me! I also would find it hard to go on Dr.Phil and air my laundry, but I sure wish that he had been on tv 20 years ago, I probably would have ended it alot sooner.
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