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September 19, 2005, 5:45 pm PDT
Things That Worked For Us
Quote From: ejl_ncMy first time doing this, so I hope I get it right! I am reading Dr. Phil's Family First, so this seemed like a good place to start! My 8yr old son is very sneaky & lies to me. He started this when he was about 4, but nothing we do seems to change it. He is my oldest, I have a 6yr girl & a 2yr boy also. Both the 8 & 6 yr olds just seem to use my distraction w/ my 2yr old as a opportunity to be sneaky & do what they want...even though they know better! Any ideas here? I am at a loss. Maybe when your two year old needs attention, you can make the other two come along with you. Tell them that since they want to be sneaky and lie and do whatever they are doing then you cannot trust them to be alone so they must follow you and help with the two year old. Do this for a day or two and see what happens, when they start complaining, explain to them again then after a while sit them down and discuss the issue and see what happens. I know a parent who has done this and it worked, of course kids certainly are nopt perfect and they will mess up, maybe talk to them on the thirsd day of doing this and ask them if they are ready to make right choices, they will probably say yes, and tell them when they don't they will have to do the process again, eventually they will get the message, hopefully. Be consisitent even though it might get annoying or whatever, stick with your guns and follow through.
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