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March 28, 2007, 9:20 pm PDT
mother of teen daughter
Quote From: ellenvonkI can understand that it is hard. I am not a mother, but I am a twenty year old girl who had some friends who chatted people up on the internet. And believe me, it is not safe. The thiong is, young people love to talk about the things they don't like to people they don't know. The whole idea is that the people you are talking about will never read it. I am not saying that what she did was right, not at all. But for the 'bad person' on the internet... The only thing you can do is raise your daughter the best way you can. If you worry about her, talk to her and do not let her send you away. A friend of mine went on a date when she was 16 with someone she did not know, and she still regrets it.
But about you making a fake profile... That never works. Two years I had a boyfriend who I really loved and because I made a fake identity to find out what he was doing ( I had the feeling he was cheating on me) I found out a lot of things I did not want to know about him. It totally broke my heart. So I would advice people not to make fake accounts... Honesty is the way to go. Just ask, respect the other person. Everyone does things they regret later. You should base your relationship with her on honesty. But, of course this is just my opinion... My daughter is 13 almost 14. This MySpace is horrible, there are hackers that can get your info from your computer with every keystroke, proven fact. My daughter has chatted and tried to meet people from this place. And she believes every word some one writes to her. She lies about (well she did) she no longer has access to computer, her age, maked arrangements to meet strange people female as well as male, and I could go on forever. The use of the computer for teens need to be monitered AT ALL TIMES. Especially no chat rooms, the time spent on the computer except for research or homework, can be used for more constructive things, spending time with real people, walking exercise, time with family friends anything except what is going on with the computer. Parents take the time to know what your children are doing, I thought I was and she was doing these right under my nose. I have put a stop to it, making sure she has other more important things to keep her occupied. Reading is a great past time, anything but the computer, it causes lots of problems
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