Quote From: mozette197Five years ago, I got myself out of an abusive relationship. It took me three and a half years to let any man get close enough to touch me on the shoulder and have me not think I had mud on me. Now, though, I've got other problems. I've come further along with my mind and I know that there's men out there that are different and don't hit and don't have anger issues; and that's great. I've been on the dating game for over a year now and have hit a reputable website and had put my name down at a singles agency in my capital city. After I had been on all the blind dates I could handle from the singles agency, I told them to lose my number (after around 6 months); it just wasn't working for me. The problem is: once I get a guy interested, they seem to stop calling. I don't inundate them with my past as it's a personal thing and it's not what they're into. I'm seeing a good therapist and so I am dealing with it. Another problem I have is trust too. Some guys get a little too close and I end up playing too hard to get. I see my cousins are getting married and feel like I'm being left behind. What am I doing wrong? Or is it the guys?
I think you are putting to much thought into dating. It's just dating, not marriage yet. Just have fun! I understand your pain and your fear when it comes to trusting. But you only live once. Figure out what type of guys you want and stick with it. Don't play hard to get, but don't fall too hard too soon either....just take it easy. Just get to know each other like friends and let it work from there. You should always build a relationship off a friendship first. That is a true answer to dating, So I think. I wish I had all the right things to say but there is really no right answer to this. But there are wrong things to do to create conflict and that is why they are not calling you back. Just like I said, have fun. When you meet someone and go on a date, just be fun and laugh alot. Be your true self, not the one hurt self that is on the outside. Dig deep and let people in!
Good luck, I wish you the best!
