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March 21, 2007, 9:31 am PDT
Lop sided marrage
Quote From: jettavI am a wife and mother and I expect to be treated with love, respect and dignity for I deserve it and any man (or woman) who mistreats their spouses do not deserve to be married. It's nice to have a husband come home to me and tell me that he loves and appreciates me for the things I do for the home and the family. I guarentee that if he came home just to degrade and manipulate me, I would not be the happy, loving and kind person that I am, I would have absolutely no desire to be a good wife to my husabnd and I certainly would not want to live with him. Love and honor is a part of marriage and those people who can't handle that, needs to get a grp on what true love and respect is. Wives were not put on this earth to be slaves and mistreated and used and manipulated and husabnds were not put on this earth to be slave masters, Marriage is about TWO people being there for one another, loving, caring, sharing a life, and being on the same team, supporting one another by encouraging and helping one another in this life journey. I thank God for the wonderful husband that I have, he is my rock and encourager, and I am here for him as well. Man, We may make our share of mistakes, but it aint nothing like these people casue my husabnd and I love and respect each other, that's what it's about and if a coupl. spouse can't do this tehn really,t hey shouldn't be married. As I'm reading your post, all I san say is "can I have a marriage like yours?" In my marriage I take care of the finances (my husband does pay half the bills), I don't let my husband have the check book because he has out of control spending habbits, and he doesn't have a problem with that. He just says "one last thing I have to worry about". Yet I look at things around my house and something isn't right. I don't have nice things, I don't need nice things, but how come my husband's farm is worth more that my house and everything in it? When My washing machine quit, I was afraid to ask my husband to buy a new one, he didn't care, but I knew that it would be taking away from his want list.
I work part time plus I take care of the house, the only thing he does around the house is bring in firewood. Thats it! Yet he has the nerve to complain that I never help him around the farm, which is not true, I help him every day durning haying season. I just ask him which one he would prefer, my help with chores every night, in which he gets done around 8:00, or eat dinner out of a box. I can't help him and make a home cooked meal at the same time. Did I mention that he works full time and makes 3x as much money as I do.
My marriage is a dictatorship and I hate it! I have threatened to leave on more than one occasion because he acts like Hitler, his way or the highway. Yet this is not an everyday thing. What should I do? I love him, but I won't tollerate his crap.
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