Quote From: stringsingerHey,
You're story is sounding all too familiar to me only I was the daughter in that situation. Have you ever been on a plane, and during the safety training where they show you how to use your seatbelt and put on the oxygen mask if it becomes necessary, they tell you to
put on your own mask first before helping young children with theirs? I think that applies here to. You need to get yourself to a counselor, to a nutritionist, to whatever it takes to get yourself back on track, to make sure you aren't sinking. That is the best thing you can do for your daughter. If you try to control and micromanage your daughter's eating for her, and lecture her about her weight and her eating habits she's just going to end up with low self esteem and body hatred and not feeling like it's her own body she's living in, or that she has any ability to make her own decisions. Lead by example. Keep healthy foods around the house and try to get to a place where you can be positive about your own body image and health. Get the help you need. And it will help your daughter; I promise.
Its a bit the chicken and the egg matter.
What should be solved first, your own obesity or your childs.
Remember two things well: What you do teaches way more than what you say. You can tell your daughter she needs to change her eating habits, but if YOU don`t give the right example, you`re just teaching her NOT to change it.
Deal with your own weight and only THEN get her to join in.
Cook meals, healthy meals. Lots of vegetables. Dump the ready-to-eat meals and buy vegetables. Just add a little salt while cooking and let that be your meal. No greasy sauces or gravies. Just simple back to basic. Ban mayo, butter and PB from the house.
Secondly: ask yourself how you would feel if you had to sit her down one day soon to tell her she will raise without having a dad because dad`s gonna die soon because he couldn`t come up with enough willpower to deal with his eating. Don`t we all want the best thing for our kids? Isn`t having a parent one of the least basic needs a kid has? Think about that.
Because that`s where you`re heading to if you keep this up.
