Quote From: ritehereNormalita, why are you apologising? If you are going to use this kind of logic, shouldn't I apologise to you for answering you and bringing on the "bad luck"? Life happens. It's a good practice to guard against bad things by living right, but sometimes tornadoes come anyway. If you constantly look for bad things on the heels of every good moment you have, guess what? they will come. Balance is enjoying the good times, and realizing that life is ups and downs, so sooner or later you will have to manage stress. Health and authenticity helps us to realize that life's down times will not destroy who we are, and what we think about ourselves inside. Have you considered that you may be addicted to stress, and over-react to situations in order to make them more stressfull than they need to be?
Thanks marcia for writing to me. I knew I was not alone in this. This is not ALL in my head. As it is true that past experiences have shaped the way I do things today. And I am sure there is room for improvement in that area. But there are times when reality can not be sugar coated. You have to grab on to it and solve it. No questions, no waffling, just do it.
I have problems this way, because I am a little too black and white for my own good. There are no grey areas as far as I am concerned. I do not tolerate people who live in these grey areas. It is very hard to live in a society where about 80% of the people are grey.
I have Dr. PHils book self matters, but I have a hard time getting through the first half. Not that I think Dr. Phil is wrong, it;s just when I get to thinking about all the bull that has gone on in my life and the things I would like to do to fix it, but for one reason or another I can not, I get so angry. So, I have to put the book away. I may have to get it back out and try again, because I think that I am at a point now, that I want all my past stuff gone. I have worked my self away from all the negative people in my life and I think this is the last step. I get angry, because I am done with all of it and anytime it comes near, I get upset.
I work on an ambulance, emergency medicine. I give to people everyday. People that are having the worst day of thier lives and I can make it better in some small way. I want some of that coming back to me. Some will say I am addicted to stress, well, they might be right. Because of my job, it's the stress that keeps things going. But over reacting, no....There is no time to over react. Everything has to right and right now.
Thanks again for writing, I look forward to talking with you again......Norma
