Quote From: labella226Dr. Phil:
My son Michael got married for the first time on October 21, 2005. He is 37 and she is 31. He was dating her for six years and the very first time I ever met her was at the actual wedding. For some unknown reason since that first day she is very jealous of my love and affection for my own son. She does not let him call me or see me. I have not spoken on the phone to my son for almost a year, I will never call his house I'm afraid of the trouble I will make for him. Except for me attending the wedding, prior to that date, I did not see my son for over six years, the exact time he has been going with her. I don't know what I did to her that she hates me so much. Even her mother at the wedding, treated me like a dog, an outcast and tried to humiliate me at the reception but, I mouthed back at her because I feel I did not deserve that kind of treatment considering I never met her either except for the first time at the wedding. Dr. Phil, please help me figure out what happened here between me and my son; prior to him meeting her, we were very close, we only have eachother, my husband died, my parents died, and he was my only child. I am going out of my mind trying to find a way to solve this matter but, I would never call his house, I'm afraid of her. I need your input please. Arlene in Orlando, Fl.
Id your son loves and respects you, you should be able to sit down with him alone and ask him if there's a problem.
However, if I were you, I'd call his wife and ask if you can take her out for dinner, shopping, etc (whatever it takes). Then tell her how important your son is to you and since he has chosen her for his wife, she must be an awfully special person (a person you'd like to get to know better). Begin a relationship with her. Once she feels comfortable with you and decides its ok to like you, she won't want to stop you from seeing your son. You may need to clarify why you "mouthed off" at her mother. If she is like I am, her mother is very special to her and you may have crossed a line.
However, it sounds as though your son is making choices here. There must be more than meets the eye. Mail him a "Thinking of You" card and tell him you love him and miss him. If that doesn't get him to contact you, I would guess that his lack of attention toward you has more to do with something other than his new wife.
I feel your pain, but you are not a victim. You can take some actions that change this situation. Why not try? All he (or she) can say is "No." Would that be any worse than what you already have???? God bless you, Arlene.
