Quote From: missjane2I have 4 kids and 3 of them boys. Boys are different than girls. I don't consider my boys to have ever been mean, but more: DESTRUCTIVE. I don't think it's necessarily the parents fault if the kids are like that. I mean they have more than one child and each are different. I think it is something within their internal make up. My youngest cried 10 hours per day for the first year of his life. He was collicky. I couldn't go anywhere. No one could hold him but me. Now that he is 8, it has changed forms: He call my cell phone 10 times per day and leaves messages. I have a strong bond with him, probably more than the rest of the kids. But things he has done include: Push the screen out of his window and throw every stuffed animal on it to get a suntan, Get a fishing pole from the basement and cast it into the driveway to hook my 6 week puppy who had to be rushed to vet ER, He stands on his head in time out on a chair and kicks his foot against it because it is too boring for him, if I am gone for too long: He takes the lace off my dining room table and puts 300 soldiers on it and lego towers that reach the ceiling and marbles as cannon balls and IRAQ war takes places on my nice dining room table. I have SO MANY STORIES with him that the other kids don't have and I know it is something in his make up. And he has answers for his behavior: WHY ARE YOU GIVING THE DOG YOUR ICE CREAM CONE? Duh Mom Just Cuz he's hungry. Do I take the blame for this? NOPE.
I worked with behaviorally challenged kids for twenty years. Have you had him seen by a specialist? He sounds like he may have brain damage. A lot (most) of the kids I cared for had Alcohol related Brain Injury but some of them had problems from early childhood illnesses or strokes. The fact that he 'had colic" for so long maybe he had headaches or what ever. These kids have normal intelligence but they cannot quite figure out consequences. They will do things over and over, or variations of the same scenerio and can't connect the dots.
They have trouble understanding that TV is pretend, that people, animals etc. all hurt. Most were hyperactive..I didn't ;know until one child taught me that some kids don't sleep. He could go for days. Burn out. If it was just me I would have thought he was out to get me but he had a history.
It starts with social problems but when others reject them they reject back. They are emotional immature, can't focus, have no impulse control. They are so confused after a while. They get distracted, they're hypersensitive, a label rubbing on their skin is excrusiatingly painful but they will burn themselves (badly) and not notice.
I've been retired for awhile but there must be programs etc. to support mothers with high end kids cause they need lots of support, both the child and the mother.
