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September 20, 2005, 1:01 pm PDT
Sex
Quote From: lovebearHello! I've been married for 1 year and three months. I have never been sexually attracted to my husband. I told him this before we got married, but he still wanted to marry me. I thought maybe it would get better, but it has gotten worse! I don't even like for him to touch me like that.
It's not that I want to have sex with any one else, because I don't (I have thought about it though).
I really don't want him to go and cheat, but how can I stop him if I don't want to? Do you know why you do not want to have sex with your husband? sex and marriage really does go together, and I think if a partner denies the other of sex then that is opening doors for one to cheat. Personally I could never imagine my husband not touching me or even either one of us not wanting sex, it would definetly leave a void in our relationship. Have you ever tried seeking a counsellor, some one that you can open up to to help you discover the reasons for this? Chances are if your husabnd wants to have sex and if he isn't aloud touching you then there is a great possibility he will eventually cheat on you, maybe he doesn't intend on it but like I said, sex is a part of marriage and I believe your partner has the right to it, unless of course he is controlling and abusive, that is a whole different issue. How does he respond to you when you don't want him touching you or not wanting sex? Is he ok with it or does it upset him? I personally would be upset if my partner didn't want to be with me and I can see where it could open doors to adultery, if the spouse isn't going to have sex with him, then who is there? If you don't want him cheating and if you love and care for him and want to be married to him then I would suggest you get some help.
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