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March 9, 2007, 9:13 am PST
 Quote From: jackdaddy It has been ten mos since my wife gave birth to our son and in that time we have had sex five times. I never asked why becasue I know she didnt feel like having sex after this and I understand so I have put my wants on back burnner and tryed to be there for her and gave her time to heal. well I know I should just ask for it but I if I do that and we do I will feel like she is doing it out of pitty and not becasue she wants to have sex with me, but if she starts it I know she wants to have sex with me. I have tryed to start it but she always acts like I am a bother to her and not a person deeply in love and what to have sex with her only all day long. To be honest she is on some meds her Bi poler that kills the sex drive I am aware of that too. when we first got married and our son was born we had sex all the time. I know she love me, but I dont know if she wants to make love with me. I dont feel confortable asking her becasue she may take it the wrong way. Let face it maybe I just need to man up and ask, then if I only get pitty sex for the rest of my life I should be fine with that. I dont know. I would watch porn but I have a 10 mos old son and that dont look right going to store with him in tow. So I dont know what to do, I love her and I know she love me. I love making love to her and meeting her needs. I just dont if she feels the same. We do have a defrent work hours is this the sort of thing we should make time for each wk like at 7pm wendesday night after the baby is in bed love making for a hour this a should be reaccuring? but I dont know about that eather becasue it like no cant it tonight I got this love make appont with the husband if her friend want to go out. I dont know I just dont know HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hi. I wonder if she feels now that the baby is here she does not feel attractive to you. The baby can make a womens body change, and be sensitive to these things. Have y ou made a week night where you, and hercan go out or have time for each other where you and her will have alone time. She may need to know that she is still attractive to her ,and that this baby has brought you two closer. With new children in the home it can take up a lot of time for care. Is there one of your parents that can take thebaby for an evening or night so you can have the time your both needing to stay connected. I recommend you both work in this so you can keep the relationship strong. I think if not careful things can become less loving. I do not think asking for her to be with you is wrong either. I think these things I have said could be some or all the situation, and your needing to make time to be alone where y our not worried about the baby interupting your evening. I am not saying this would take you away from him it just means you need to to be alone sex or not. Hope this helps. Randy from Gods country |
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