Replies to 'Dating After 40'

I am not suggesting I have any answers but have dated some more than others and have a small amount of experience in dating via on line, but mostly through going out with my friends and through thier experiences.  

I have met people that used the personals (yahoo is actually match.com/ but you prob. know that already), but only a few work out.  You may want to use caution.  I tried them too and I am just approaching my mid 40's and still look early 30's.  A lot of people like to use them to use people and play games.  They lie a lot too about their age and personal life.  A few people do get married with it, but most women I talk to find the guys just want sex or someone with money whom they can have sex with.

You are right, they seem to want women in their 20's and early 30's at the latest.  I also found out that many  men  seemed to want  someone with a high paying job who got her home from her divorce settlement, and that way they get " eye candy w/ money and financial security".  I personally had no luck with on line personals. I didn't post an ad, but answered a couple of them via email.

I thought I had a chance bec. even though I am considered the "working poor", I was cute enough to compete ( better than average looks/ attractive).  I was wrong (laugh), I did meet someone   at a nice restaurant  when out for dinner and we are together, but found out that many of the guys he works with who are single, like em' with money.    I guess it's bec. of the economy and so many men have lost a lot financially via divorce settlements and years of high child support if they are good wage earners. 

I listen to Dr. McGraw's Cd's esp. the "Smart Love.." ones.(no time to read the book, but I own that too)  I can tell you what I learned from my experience,  get to know them several months before being intimate or developing feelings/ attachment to them; meet their friends a.s.a.p. ;and find out about their family and how their brothers and sisters treat their mates.   And follow your gut instinct, if you feel you see a little red flag, run.  It can save wasted valuable years and get you closer to the one you need. 

The saying "past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior" is so true.  I hate dating in my 40's even more than my 20's.    To me being accepted for who I plus  youthful looks didn't help either.   With 1 man to 5-6 women ratio, (even in large cities) the competition is fierce.  Good Luck, my friends and I (including my married ones) find relationships tricky.  I just do the best I can and keep following the Cd's.  : )    Sara