Quote From: jettavI believe cheaters can change and that all marriages can become happy and fullfilling but the people involved has to want to change and get the help that they need, work through their issues and begin to prove themselves to their spouses, No way would I be living with my husband or having sex with him if he were cheating on me, sounds dirty and deceiving to me. I believe in forgiveness but at the same time, Believe that the one who is being forgiven needs to stand up to reality and expect to be held accountable for her/his actions. You bet, my husband would have to prove him self worthy if he were to do this disgusting act called adultery.
My husabnd and I actually talked about this subject when we were engaged and both agreed that we would always be honest and hold true to one another and if there were doubts to communicate and after 14 years of marriage, we do exactly that, did it at the beginning and still believe in honestly and being faithful, A good solid marriage will not have these type of issues therefore I believe that chances are, if there is a cheater in the marriage, there is a reason for it, what's going on in the marriage to drvie a spouse to another? Spouses are supposse to be a team, be in he marriage together and if they are not meeting one anothers needs and desires then the unexpected wil eventually happen.
Hopefully these couples on the show will get the help they need so they don't fall into the divorce statistics, doesn't sound like a very pleasent place to be in my opinion.
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A good solid marriage will not have these type of issues therefore I believe that chances are, if there is a cheater in the marriage, there is a reason for it, what's going on in the marriage to drvie a spouse to another?
After a long term marriage collapsed under the long time strain of pornography, that escalated into prostitution- I believe I can say with certainty that this view is myopic. If a man chooses to
go somewhere else for sexual gratification, there is nothing the spouse can do to stop it. Believe me, I tried everything. Eventually, it dawned on me that I cannot control him, so I must control my decisions. My marriage was healthy until I began to learn the secret that he brouught into the marriage without my knowledge. While there may be times that the woman might have some fault in it, I have seen a lot of situations that the woman was blindsided by it.
