Quote From: bactphd95It's only a "curse" if they let it (superstitious nonsense!!). My 2nd wedding was far from "picture perfect" (Mother & niece of Bride had food poisoning [niece upchucked in the church, Mother and aunt of Groom got in a car wreck, delaying the ceremony for an hour, MOB is so wiped out she takes daughter & niece of bride home right after the ceremony & bag the reception).
Guess what? We survived!
IMO, too much emphasis is put on the BIG DAY, as opposed to the lifetime...
Certainly the lifetime is the most important thing. I do think that the first couple's wedding sends out alarms the bride should be alert to. If this guy was so inconsiderate as to get drunk enough at the wedding to not even remember parts of it, she has reason for worry. It concerns me that she is worried about the wrong things though. Instead of the wedding itself, she should be concerned about the future based on his behavior at the wedding. A man who will hit his bride at the wedding, hit his new father in law and his own best man, then swear at the police? Then he needs Dr. Phil to tell him he has to be sure his wife knows he gets it? What kind of forecast is this for the future? I would be concerned she is headed for a life with an abusive drunk.
As to wedding problems in general, I think most have something that isn't exactly preplanned. When I got married at my parents house, their dog barked non-stop all day. You couldn't hear anything because of the dog. After trying everything we could think of, we finally drugged the dog! It worked, the dog is fine and everything else went well. We can look back at it and laugh about having to give the dog a tranquilizer instead of dwelling on all the noise before that.
