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Only God can heal this marriage. Humanly speaking a wife cannot ever trust a husband who has cheated on her. Having said that I do admire wives who stay with a cheating spouse but only on the condition that the husband shows her he is willing to win back her trust. As most of us are aware pornography is rampant on the internet. Another issue that needs to be dealt with are chat rooms where men con women who frequent those rooms. I am shocked at the behavior of somewomen in those chat rooms. As Dr. Phil says: 'You treat others how to treat you.' If you allow men in chat rooms to talk sexually to you and indulge in webcaming without your clothes on, in my mind, you are asking for trouble and heartache. I am appalled at women who believe what men tell them in private chats. In a chat conversation the words typed are simply words until you meet that person and find out if what was typed is true. I personally had a live in relationship with a man who indulged in masturbating with women in chat rooms.When I found out it made me feelused, degraded, my self-esteem went down at an all time low (first time I experienced this). I'm happy to say I found the courage to leave this relationship and swore to myself that I would never again even go out with a man who spent time in chat rooms or looked at pornography. I don't know what women are thinking.....most men hate talking on the phone yet they can spend hours on the internet either typing to other women or looking at pornography. Isn't this kind of behavior a red flag that something is not kosher??? I think most men who get caught at cheating in any form are just sorry because they got caught and will promise anything to have their cake and eat it too. The question I asked myself whenI found my live in boyfriend cybersexing with other women is the following: 'Am I willing to spend goodness knows how many years feeling all these different emotions and livingwith a man I am constantly suspicious of'. My answer was no because it was not worth it. To all men and even women out there cybersexing or looking at pornography is cheating if you're married or in a serious relationship.

Only God can heal this marriage.  Humanly speaking a wife cannot ever trust a husband who has cheated on her.   Having said that I do admire wives who stay with a cheating spouse but only on the condition that the husband shows her he is willing to win back her trust.  As most of us are aware pornography is rampant on the internet.  Another issue that needs to be dealt with are chat rooms where men con women who frequent those rooms.   I am shocked at the behavior of  some women in those chat rooms.  As Dr. Phil says:  "You treat others how to treat you."  If you allow men in chat rooms to talk sexually to you and indulge in webcaming without your clothes on, in my mind, you are asking for trouble and heartache.  I am appalled at women who believe what men tell them in private chats.  In a chat conversation the words typed are simply words until you meet that person and find out if what was typed is true.   I personally had a live in relationship with a man who indulged in masturbating with women in chat rooms.  When I found out it made me feel used, degraded, my self-esteem went down at an all time low (first time I experienced this).   I'm happy to say I found the courage to leave this relationship and swore to myself that I would never again even go out with a man who spent time in chat rooms or looked at pornography.  I don't know what women are thinking.....most men hate talking on the phone yet they can spend hours on the internet either typing to other women or looking at pornography.   Isn't this kind of behavior a red flag that something is not kosher???  I think most men who get caught at cheating in any form are just sorry because they got caught and will promise anything to have their cake and eat it too.  The question I asked myself when I found my live in boyfriend cybersexing with other women is the following:  "Am I willing to spend goodness knows how many years feeling all these different emotions and living with a man I am constantly suspicious of".  My answer was no because it was not worth it.  To all men and even women out there cybersexing or looking at pornography is cheating if you're married or in a serious relationship.   

Only God can heal this marriage.  Humanly speaking a wife cannot ever trust a husband who has cheated on her.   Having said that I do admire wives who stay with a cheating spouse but only on the condition that the husband shows her he is willing to win back her trust.  As most of us are aware pornography is rampant on the internet.  Another issue that needs to be dealt with are chat rooms where men con women who frequent those rooms.   I am shocked at the behavior of  some women in those chat rooms.  As Dr. Phil says:  "You treat others how to treat you."  If you allow men in chat rooms to talk sexually to you and indulge in webcaming without your clothes on, in my mind, you are asking for trouble and heartache.  I am appalled at women who believe what men tell them in private chats.  In a chat conversation the words typed are simply words until you meet that person and find out if what was typed is true.   I personally had a live in relationship with a man who indulged in masturbating with women in chat rooms.  When I found out it made me feel used, degraded, my self-esteem went down at an all time low (first time I experienced this).   I'm happy to say I found the courage to leave this relationship and swore to myself that I would never again even go out with a man who spent time in chat rooms or looked at pornography.  I don't know what women are thinking.....most men hate talking on the phone yet they can spend hours on the internet either typing to other women or looking at pornography.   Isn't this kind of behavior a red flag that something is not kosher???  I think most men who get caught at cheating in any form are just sorry because they got caught and will promise anything to have their cake and eat it too.  The question I asked myself when I found my live in boyfriend cybersexing with other women is the following:  "Am I willing to spend goodness knows how many years feeling all these different emotions and living with a man I am constantly suspicious of".  My answer was no because it was not worth it.  To all men and even women out there cybersexing or looking at pornography is cheating if you're married or in a serious relationship.