Replies to '05/31 "I Hate This Marriage"'

How does verbally attacking someone who is asking for help, help them? What they need is patience, compassion and someone to say " I understand your hurting, let me tell you how I recieved help for this same problem" or something along those lines.

When you look at sex as something more then the physical release, and you use it to escape from reality on a regular basis you might have a problem. When you have sex with anything with two legs and a heartbeat, in the hope of deadening your pain you might have a problem. When you would rather masturbate then have sex with your very willing, and attractive spouse you might have a problem. When you "need" to have sexual encounters with multiple people daily, just to get through the day then you might have a problem. You might be a sex addict. You might need alot of counseling, but you will definetly need somone with compassion yet a tough love manner too.

It is very easy for many people who are on the outside to say that the wives should just leave their husbands and that they are making the wrong choice to stay. But its much harder to fight for a marriage and a spouse, to make a stand and say " This person is a child of God, they deserve for someone to care enough to help" The help can be many things including inpatient treatment, counseling, seperation or divorce. Sometimes, it does take divorce before a sex addict will hit rock bottom. Sometimes it takes being arrested during a prostitution sting before they hit  bottom. No one but the addict themselves can say when they are truely ready to recieve the help that is being offered, however, it is our responsibilty as caring human beings to have it avilable for them.