Quote From: shelleyn05Farmerchik,
The first step here is to acknowledge that you and he do not have a great relationship. If you did, there would be a lot more respect flowing from him to you in terms of dumping the "other woman." Make no mistake, she is the other woman regardless of whether he is doing anything physical with her. If nothing else, there's an unhealthy emotional relationship going on.
You ask "Where do I go from here?" The answer is that you go forward either with him or alone. Those are the only options. If he refuses to get rid of her and it bothers you, then you need to get rid of him. If you don't want to get rid of him, you're going to have to live with his disrespect.
Remember - you teach people how to treat you. You've taught him that it's ok for him to keep this woman in his life. If that's ok with you, so be it. Quit complaining. If it's not ok with you, you have to be willing to walk away from him.
Best of luck.
Hi,
Thank you for replying to my message. Actually, you said to me exactly what I've been thinking but I felt that maybe I was wrong. I need to learn to follow my gut instinct instead of my heart sometimes.
We had another discussion last night but again, I don't think it went anywhere. I guess I'm going to have to take control of the situation and do like you said, move on with or without him.
All I want in life is to be happy and so far, that's the only thing I haven't been.
Sincerely,
Farmerchik
