Replies to '04/04 Did He or Didn't He?'

He's lucky to have you, and I hope he knows that.

I think it is a terrible thing to take this on national TV, if he really didn't do it ( not knowing your family or the circumstances please forgive me for trying to be neutral here ), he is labled for life anyway because there will be some saying his "Body Language " or mannerisms, made him "LOOK" guilty ( prepare yourself for that ), and there is still a chance the polygraph will give a wrong answer either way (I hope you've been prepared for that as well ), there will be some to take the polygraph results as gospel either way.

We have to keep in mind, that not only the child, but a whole family is being hurt by this, true or not, they are the ones that have to deal with this when they get home, we can comment on amessage board and get on with our lives, but I will say so far so good, most are reserving Judgement until Wednsday.

Stay strong, and maybe your father someday will see the people that really should be his priority.

You show yourself a good sister to your brother and that is a good thing for him.

Stating that : "My brother did not do this.
I stand by him.
I will continue to stand by him.
Nothing that anyone says is going to convince me otherwise."

is giving him a clean slate no matter what he does or may have done?

That is not fair to anyone especially him? 

Fair is weighing both sides?  A child is caught in a battle now for family

worth, affection, trust and love?  you just told us that the child is not important enough to be given a fair decision, you already made your mind up?  That is sad!

I wish you well in your defense for one side before knowing that you know for sure and

risking a childs welfare. 

that you so easily defend and side 100% on your brother without truely knowing for sure

does not credit your sense of fairness, please try to open your mind to more issues

than that you do not want to belive it is possible because of how you feel?

I would not want you with small children at all because you have sided 100% which leaves no room for a child to be anything but available to be abused around you, far too many family members like that now leaving children to carry the weight of the abuse or problems.

IF he is not guilty, then your stand of 70% for him and 30% for the child will still leave

you some comfort in sibling bonds but to not give this child any room for trust from you ?

That makes you an unsafe person to be trusted with children.  your Step-Mom is correct to keep you away because of your 100% stand against her child!
Any kind of person can abuse children: Priests, Doctors, -the list is endless- because it is not about what kind of personality those around them see?

To error on the side of a child is  a far better place to be found wrong?

Hi Tiffany, I have never signed up for a message board or responded to anything in my life before and I am an "old doll" of 45, but I just wanted to tell you from the bottom of my heart that your brother should stand tall and proud, he was a real true man on todays show.  That took alot of courage and guts.  I was sad to hear what your dad said to him to make him feel he had to do the show but gheesh if it helps at all now he is in many of out prayers that he gets this behind him and becomes even stronger for it.  May these terrible people who would accuse him of such a thing without any proof or real facts one day realize the great harm they have done to your brother.  My heart cries for him as it was so obvious how much he is suffering and may you all request from the Dr. Phil show that he gets any additional help he may need to put this behind him.  You are a great sister and what a team you make.  Your dad should be ashamed of himself for a number of reasons.  I will continue to keep you all in my prayers and asks others to pray for you as well.  Please tell Steven that he did himself PROUD today and he was the first and best person I have ever saw represent himself.  Hats off to him.  Hugs too!  God Bless you all and I hope you lead happy and healthy lives and maybe one day your Dad will get a brain and come find some smart decent lady like myself instead of a lady who wants to drag a deadend tale on for years and years!!!  What goes around comes around Tiffany, hang strong with your brother and his girlfriend and enjoy that new baby that will bring much happiness and love into your lives. Hugs Tiffany

Tiffany, I've been through the same thing, I understand.  It's the best thing in the world to have someone on your side.  Your brother will need you more than ever.  People don't understand how hard it is to be accused of something that you didn't do.  Tell him that he needs to go on with his life and let people believe what ever they want, because they already do. I still feel like I have to look over my shoulder, but I think that could all be in my head now. This happened to me about 8 years ago. I'm 35 now.  I think that it happened to me because my ex-wife wanted to go play. She just didn't want to be married anymore.

 

Well, I could go on for hours I just wanted to lend my support.  I know you guy's will get through this, it will take alot of time.  The pain will never go away. It will always hurt, but  the support from you and others will hopefully heal some of the wound.   

On the show your father and brother said that you at one time claimed your brother touched you inappropriately, but what they didn't say was if you ever took back what you said. All your father said was you had done this two other times, and then took it back,

 

Did you take your complaint back?

 

Or did that really happen, did he touch you inappropriately?