Replies to '09/19 "Afraid of My Mom"'

but just suppose the treatment she put her daughter in didn't work & actually made the kid worse & she went to 10 different doctors in the past 3 yrs. & all that was done didn't work.  If she was at a loss for what to do would you have a lack of respect?  If she came to Dr.Phil & showed a tape of her daughter at her worst & she had no idea what to do & no more money to try to figure it out would you call her a horrible mother & be screaming that she should have known when she was younger?   

You said "They both refused to act.  Dad walked away and left those innocent children to suffer her abuse and mom just kept dishing it and dishing it instead of forcing herself to do the right thing. "  I'm not saying this is wrong but then in reality you just don't know this.  There are so many "what if's" it would take too long to list them & you've no idea what actions they'd taken.  Here's just 1 what if to suggest  - what if that tape was the "wherewithall" that the father taped on his own to get the attention of the powers that be to put them on the show & get the help they need?  Ok so here's one more Perhaps this man went to work & a woman that tapes & watches the show suggested that this man contact Dr. Phil?  We've no idea that while this man went to work he didn't set up different things to protect his daughters.   

You said "now that I'm calmer" & so my suggestion  was right that you were pretty angry & raging here in your messages?  & so now if you say I don't know what I'm talking about & try to explain does that just mean you're just in denial?   

"Why does he keep blaming posters?  Because its EASY.  Perhaps his wife read some things she didnt like and flew off into a rage.  Well Good Lord thats the POSTERS fault, dontya know?" 

Yes that *could be* or PERHAPS his daughter who was 11 at the taping of the show is now a month later 12 yrs. old & in middle school where there is access to computers & she's reading all the lovely comments about her parents on these boards!!!!!!!!!  Have you considered this?  Now I have because I have teenagers & I know they have access to computers at school & they're usually smarter than the teachers when it comes to how to use them etc.  They ALL have internet access & if this daughter knew her parents were on the show I imagine she'd be curious to check out the web site.  As I'd said in an earlier post I do not believe this is a place for kids but in reality what should be & what is is 2 entirely different things & they do have access at school.  They're in all of the libraries too.  Children feel they are an extention of their parents & when you attack them you attack the child.  This could be absolutely detremental for a child to read the comments on this board about their parents.  Of course I'd hope we'd have been told if this was the problem but that's a different kettle of fish too.   

And if this is sending the mother into a rage & it continues even after we've been given the heads up, then while yes the husband is at fauth, we DO SHARE the responsibility too.  I think you need to take a deep breath & yes calm down & consider there are people at the other end of these monitors.