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September 22, 2005, 10:19 am PDT
I do Know!
Quote From: momakababefrankly I've been here serval times this season now & I have to say it's not hard to get confused & lost on these message boards because they're horrible!
I was having trouble interpertiting the post because it didn't seem like it should be directed at me to start with. Anyway I dunno but after the MIL's coming on here & giving MIL's every where a bad name I think I was a bit frustrated. This was the epidomy of what I'm trying to avoide with my own sons & their future spouses. It is hard to let go & sometimes we don't even realize what we're doing when we hold on too tight you know?
I also understand where you're coming from because I seem to recall my father-in-law taking offense that I'd said the front door was for company & the back door for family & we'd always greeted them at the front when they visit! Well when you're visiting family or not you're company so to speak & yes I use the front door. I just could not get through & he actually had an attitude about this. LOL Sometimes they think they're "family" there fore they shouldn't have to call like others............You know it's like "Everybody Loves Raymond" & they feel they're family & don't need to even knock when coming in. It's amazing really Talk About "Everybody Loves Raymond", like I said my in-laws moved into my sub-division. They knew that they were not welcome to just drop by, so one day they called to my husband through our windows from the street! I thought that was bizarre. See the post I made yesterday about my FIL. At least we don't have a back door. LOL But you are right - "family", at least immediate family, are the people that live in the house - everyone else is "company". I have a son myself, so I am already preparing for the loss. There has got to be a way to keep a close relationship and still respect your grown kids as independent adults. I just haven't found anyone who can do it very well.
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